I'm stupid!

[Anodyne80]

I really don't see that as an insult. I have nothing against his gf, it's just difficult to see them together.

But okay, I should be honest, and stop the bs, also to myself. Why am I still with my bf? Okay, we've been together for such a long time, change is scary and we've grown so accustomed to one another. But do I really stil feel love? Well the feelings for my bf have changed significantly, otherwise I wouldn't crush on someone else. But when you've been with someone for such a long time there is a very strong bond, and you might not love them as lovers, but there is a very stong friendship. Plus, I'm so used to being with him, but the downside to that is that seeing eachother becomes very ordinary, and not very exciting. I have often asked myself if I wanted to spent the rest of my life with him and for years I've told myself that it will be fine and that I just have to try. But the truth is that I don't think I will ever be happy. Our communication is very bad too and we're not very affectionate to one another which makes it seem as though we both don't care that much. Life just goes by and what is shall remain... But I don't think I want that. But to break up, it's such a huge descision. I don't know if I'm ready to do that. My life as I know it will change so drastically.

[Anodyne80]

And regarding the other guy. I saw him today, he said he never recieved a text message since his phone's not working, however, it will be fixed soon, and he will probably recieve the text than :')

[InYourFACE]

Are you shore it was accidentally? or did you do it to get a reaction from him and now
you are afraid of the reaction tomorrow/?

and learn your lesson stop gossiping and especially true phones.

He clearly is not happy or interested in you in any kind of way.

And you dont send a massage to just tell it wasn't for him you supposed to say sorry,

And just act normal tomorrow if you already told him sorry,
and aspect his girlfriend coming for you to kick your ass. hahhahhhah

[InYourFACE]

And he is not single so you suppose to be looking for someone else. respect others relationships

[Anodyne80]

Are you shore it was accidentally? or did you do it to get a reaction from him and now
you are afraid of the reaction tomorrow/?

and learn your lesson stop gossiping and especially true phones.

He clearly is not happy or interested in you in any kind of way.

And you dont send a massage to just tell it wasn't for him you supposed to say sorry,

And just act normal tomorrow if you already told him sorry,
and aspect his girlfriend coming for you to kick your ass. hahhahhhah

You're just assuming that it wasn't accidental, which it was! I never meant for him to find out how I feel about him. So I haven't meddled in their relationship at all. In fact I try not to see him, he asked me a few times if I wanted to go and do stuff with him outside of school which I declined. And I'm not gossiping, I was sending the message to my best friend, who knows of my predicament. Most of our classes are together, so obviously I see him a lot. I try to avoid him as much a possible but he often takes the seat next to me or comes up to me in break. However, sometimes when I haven't seen him for a while I do miss him and I do feel happy when he comes up to me for a chat.

And since he is an adult and a very nice guy I don't expect him to tell his GF about the text he got of me. Also he's the one who took me out to lunch without telling his GF. That's when I started to see him in a different light and my feelings started to change from feeling friendly towards him to having a crush.

Also I don't feel sorry for the text. I can't help that I feel that way. I think he'll understand that people can develop feelings for others. He's always been supernice to me, so I don't see why he would suddenly hate me, just over one silly textmessage.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

You're a selfish, deceitful cunt. And yes, as the title of this thread states, you are stupid.

[smackie9]

If your communication with your BF is poor maybe it's time you step up and tell him how you feel. Maybe a separation is in order. Change is scary, but adjusting to a different life is doable. People walk away from 25 year of marriage, I'm sure you will have np.


You are stupid alright.....for letting it go on for so long. Who knows maybe your BF feels the same way as you do.

[dickriculous]

But okay, I should be honest, and stop the bs, also to myself. Why am I still with my bf? Okay, we've been together for such a long time, change is scary and we've grown so accustomed to one another. But do I really stil feel love? Well the feelings for my bf have changed significantly, otherwise I wouldn't crush on someone else. But when you've been with someone for such a long time there is a very strong bond, and you might not love them as lovers, but there is a very stong friendship. Plus, I'm so used to being with him, but the downside to that is that seeing eachother becomes very ordinary, and not very exciting. I have often asked myself if I wanted to spent the rest of my life with him and for years I've told myself that it will be fine and that I just have to try. But the truth is that I don't think I will ever be happy. Our communication is very bad too and we're not very affectionate to one another which makes it seem as though we both don't care that much. Life just goes by and what is shall remain... But I don't think I want that. But to break up, it's such a huge descision. I don't know if I'm ready to do that. My life as I know it will change so drastically.

In other words it's exactly as everyone has been saying since the first post ITT - your relationship with your bf is ****ed and you're settling for him because you're afraid of being alone. You've already been told everything you need to hear, you're just ignoring it because it's not what you want to hear.

This post makes it clear and undeniable that your current bf is a crutch for you. And if he's not affectionate toward you and doesn't seem to care, chances are he feels the same way. So that makes you mutual crutches, bf/gf are just arbitrary labels you're both holding on to because you don't want to accept the reality of the dynamic between the two of you. But how fair is that to your bf? How fair is that to yourself? And what about kids? Do you want to start a family? How fair would it be to expose them to this type of dynamic where mommy and daddy don't love each other and show them that this is how men and women are supposed to be with one another and how relationships are supposed to work? And what if you get married to him, have kids, and then years down the road you or your husband (or both) decide you're no longer afraid of being alone thus your only motivation to stay together is now gone...but you have the kids and holding a family together to worry about despite a marriage where you and your husband no longer have any reason to give a **** about each other?

[lylufy]

Be honest to yourself ! What do you want, now, and future?
Who do you want? now and future? Is that him?
Sometime, you built your relationship along time and you regret ! But, the person did change, and the situation changed too.
You will happy with this guy? 1 month more, 1 year more? 10 years ???