His "best friend" is obviously wants him. Don't know what to do anymore

[Ryot]

So my boyfriend and I have a mutual acquaintance, acquaintance on my side "close" friend on his side. Well before he and I met he had a crush on her and took her out a couple times and she ended up dropping him for someone else, then he and I met and began seeing each other. Which she then suddenly started flirting with him really hard. She has been the main cause of any arguments or issues we've had. I don't want to ask him to quit being friends with her because that would just be wrong. However I have finally begun to let it go but she's not it was one thing before we made it official and we were just casually dating but it seems like the longer we are together the harder she flirts. The main problem I'm having with it at this point is that what she's doing is incredibly disrespectful to him, and I'm over protective about the people I care about. Why do I think it's disrespectful? Because she had a chance and she blew it and now that she sees him happy with someone else she seems to be trying to wreck it. I finally brought up this topic with him and he hadn't thought of it in that light and his response is that he's going to have to talk to her about it.

To be completely honest I can't stand her. We were friends once until she began showing her true colors. We run in the same circles and they are friends so obviously I can't just tell her to **** off. If I throw a party and she attends if I drink I end up getting irked by her presence and my boyfriend and I end up having an issue. We don't really argue considering we both believe in discussing our problems versus having full blown fights. We have very open communication but I really just want to smack him upside the head and go dude seriously wtf?! She's not worth all this bullshit. I just don't know what to do and I feel as though I'm overreacting and yet feel completely justified. I don't know what I expect anybody to say I just need a little unbiased input.

[Cerby]

The question is: Do you trust him? It doesn't really matter what she says and does if you trust him. He won't cheat while he is with you (at least I assume not).

[Maple1714]

You are very justified in feeling this way towards his "best friend"...it's bullshit. Your BF likes the attention it seems. I would have a very hard time not telling her to **** off....but probably better not to. You do not have to invite her to your house parties or go anywhere she is. You can give her the complete cold shoulder when you do see her, esp if her presence causes arguments btw you and your BF. You have to take the high road here though...she is trying to "poach" your BF. The only way to deal with this is to take the high road, ignore her and always look hotter than she is and give your BF daily blowjobs...

Let all your insecurities go and don't ever bring her up in conversation with your BF. Pretend she doesn't exist and out shine her. You are an individual, so just love yourself and forget the rest. If your BF feels the need to seek attention from this other girl then he is going to do it no matter what...eventually this girl will find someone else to flirt with OR they will run off together and end up breaking up anyway...

[Ryot]

At the moment he's barely ever hanging out with her and he does try to steer her away from the flirtatiousness. He's behaving actually. I guess my real problem is trying to understand why HE doesn't tell her to bugger off. They were friends before we got together so I wouldn't ask him to choose it's cruel. The funny thing is she still acts towards me like she did when we were friends while I blow her off for the most part, and since we do run in the same circles if I didn't invite her she'd find out about the parties and the fall out just isn't worth it plus I didn't think I was being fair to him by not inviting her.

[Cerby]

So he is behaving and she is being nice. I see only one person acting odd here, and it isn't one of them.

[Maple1714]

He's behaving actually.

They were friends before we got together so I wouldn't ask him to choose it's cruel.

since we do run in the same circles if I didn't invite her she'd find out about the parties and the fall out just isn't worth it plus I didn't think I was being fair to him by not inviting her.

From all of this it sounds like you are really creating a problem for yourself. Who cares about some other girl...why does it make you feel insecure?

[Ryot]

She's being nice to me yes, but falling all over my bf every chance she gets.

And it's because I have some pretty serious issues with trust >.< but he knows this.

[Maple1714]

She's being nice to me yes, but falling all over my bf every chance she gets.

And it's because I have some pretty serious issues with trust >.< but he knows this.

You have to let go of whatever happened in your past that has caused you to have trust issues....b/c now in the present it's causing you problems. You are creating all of your problems...no one else. You have all the power to get over your issues and be happy now. There will always be other women around your BF...you just have to realize that he is with you for a reason, so don't push him away b/c of some issues you have from your past. Insecure women annoy the shit out of me...its weak. There is no reason for it. Be yourself and shine like I mentioned above....your are an individual and no one else can be you but you! Seriously, do not give this other girl a second thought. It's funny, it's the insecure/jealous females who tend to get cheated on more frequently and treated poorly by men....b/c that is the energy you are putting out there so what do you expect in return?

This all sounds pretty trivial, sorry but it really does. How old are you guys?

[InYourFACE]

group of freind need to stop ****ing eacht other one by one, go date someone nobody knows damm.

this kind of stuff always ends in drama. even if there is nothing happening.

and i think he should not talk to her. you need to have the right friendship build with a guy before having him as your bf.
so you both can have the right feel of trust and team building against sluts.

and if she is disrespectful towards him he should tell her to back off first,,

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Just put her on the spot and make her feel uncomfortable. Tell her she seems like she's jealous that she didn't take him when she had the chance, and ask her if that's the case, then smirk at her. Say, it must kill you that he doesn't want you anymore huh? If she denies it, tell her its obvious, and point out a couple things that she's done. Don't be angry about it either, don't stop smiling and treat it as if it's funny to you. Laugh and tell her it's pathetic what she's trying to do. Do it in front of people if you have the nerve, otherwise do it in the bathroom or something. She'll want to crawl under the table.