Need relationship help

[laidaie]

Hello. I met my boyfriend back in March this year. I know its soon but we fell inlove via a dating site and continued our relationship via phone and skype until a month and a half ago when he ran into some financial troubles and packed up what he could. Quit his job in hopes of finding one out here. Let me back up. He lived in Maine I was in Washington state. We talked day and night texting and phone. As soon as I got home he was all excited to log onto skype and that is where we spent the rest of our evenings. He decided a month an a half ago to leave everything behind this included his kids whom he is lucky to see once a month as they live with their mother. He moved out here with my daughter and I. He tells me he loves me. but he had issues with getting an erection with me and I thought maybe he wasn't attracted to me so this started some communication issues. He said it was because he needed to get back to working so he could pay his child support to get his ex off his back. And he thought maybe he was stressed out and that was the reason. While he was here for 6 weeks he was very cuddly and playful telling me he loves me. He wasn't working so money was an issue for him so I paid for everything while he was here and never asked for a dime knowing his situation. During this time he mowed the lawn, took out the garbage, did dishes! watered the lawn etc! While we were talking before we got together in person he would tell me he was steeling me away, marrying me then moving me to the midwest with his family. I had stars in my eyes and wow I really fell for this guy. Since we got together in person all that changed. He stopped talking about marrying me and stopped talking about moving. He would occationally mention that his dad wanted me to come run his restaurant when he bought it but he would be on the road. As he went back to his company driving long haul. He is stationed close to where I live so I will eventually see him but right now he's in Oklahoma for 6 weeks at least until I see him again. He has his car and a few items still here and he has told my daughter and I he will be back. He just wasn't sure when. A week before he left he told me it wasn't fair for me to wait around for him. He told me that if Mr. Right comes along that he wants me to grab it and never let it go. I was kind of stunned for a minute not sure what to say but I eventually said. Your Mr. Right why would I go looking. He then told me that no matter what we would always be friends and he's mentioned this alot. No matter what he will always be there for me and my daughter. Another night that week he told me he didn't know what he wanted and it wasn't fair to me that he wasn't ready for any kind of long term commitment. Although when he was on those dating sites before I met him he had checked the looking for long term button. He wants to be my boyfriend. He wants to see what happens while he is gone and he says its going to be the huge decision for us. But for now I am his girlfriend and he loves me. He doesn't know if he's in love with me when I asked him that question which I regret asking now but he says I deserve better and someone that can feel the same way about me. He says his ex wife broke him. Made him broken inside. He swears he doesn't love her and he's had relationships since and its been a couple years since they broke up. Anyways, now that he's away I am worried. I kind of snooped in his cubord side of the bed where he keeps his things and I saw some vitamins that are for impotence. 2 bottles and they looked like he has had them for quite some time. WAY before me! He told me the first night we had sex that he never lost his erection with anyone before me. He also told me that he never felt the way about those girls as he does me either. I am so confused. I feel like he's such a nice guy that he doesn't want to hurt me but I feel I need to let him go and release him from any obligation he feels towards me and what I have done for him. I need some advice.

[laidaie]

Oh yea one more thing. Last night I was on the phone with him and I told him I feel the need to end the relationship to set him free while he finds himself and he told me I need to do what I need to do but he's tried everything to convince me the he loves me and he can't do anymore.

[surfhb]

Seriously girl! Take yourself out of the picture and look at this situation. dont you think he kinds sounds like a looser who doesnt know what he wants? If so, you move on with your life and let him go.