He's 37 and divorced with kids, had a remodeling business but isn't working, and is a musician. I'm 28 and have had a string of intense relationships, do social work and volunteer work, and moving to Korea next year to teach ESL. We broke up 2 days ago. He called me very drunk and crying. (He has drank a handle of whiskey since yesterday). We went into a long conversation about his kids, rehab, and why he is upset. I tried to convince him to get treatment, but he will just say he knows it, agree, and then go back into denial.
He ended up telling me that he is really upset about our breakup (I was fine). He said that I would have been "the one" for him, but he can't deal with the fact I don't believe in a higher power (I am agnostic... leaning towards Buddhism... formerly Catholic). I DO believe in energy, spirit, and the beauty of the world. I am always trying to be a better person. He also went on an OCD rant about how he doesn't get why I would use the words "goddamn" or "Jesus f-ing christ". This really bothers him because I don't believe in these things. I told him that I was TRYING to change it, and it was simply a bad habit, and it didn't mean anything. I am trying to be more respectful of other people's beliefs.
It hurts me that he would tell me that even though he thinks I am the most amazing woman he's ever met, he can't be with me because of my religious belief, or see that I try to not say things that offend him. I have tried to support him so much... It's so hard to see him suffer like this, but I know I need to let him help himself. I don't expect to save anyone, but it hurts to watch it. I worry. He is a beautiful person, but for his drinking and denial. Any words? I just need some support.