hi
i just need some input into my situation and what other opinions are out there.
i am 42 and have been married for 5 years.we have 2 children age 3 and 4.
my husband and i dated for only 3 months before we got married.
i guess that i was swept along with everything.he is american and i am from the UK.
it seemed all new and a new way of life.i suppose i wasnt madly in love with him but i do really care for him and he is a very good dad.
before i met him i had a lot of boyfriends but no one who seemed really sure of what he wanted in a relationship.my husband made it known that he loved me and wanted a family which was what i wanted at the time.
things have been ok....until 7 months ago when my husband lost his job. he has some income coming in from other venues but it is not that much so i am starting to get really quite stressed about it all.it has caused a lot of arguements and we hardly have sex anymore ..i dont find him appealing . i work so most of everthing is on me...not what i expected when moving to another country.
we have discussed it and i will move back to the Uk if he has not got a job by dec/jan as i have a property there which will be available in march. he may then look for a job there but its not decided.
6 years ago i dated a guy who i liked so much ,the only thing is that i never felt like i was a priority.even though he was 38 at the time he was a bit immature. i ended it because things were not moving along as i wanted but i always thought of him and regretted ending it after only 5 months but i guess i wasnt getting any younger ....we kept in contact over the years and recently we met up and spent the night together.it was amazing...physically we were a really good match .he is married too now 4 years .no kids. he told me he loves me and he f....d up 6 years ago .he is probably wondering whether he could take me and my two children on ...
his wife found out a few texts from us so s...t has hit the fan with him...he doesnt know what he wants and neither do i at the moment.
i know that i cant stay here in a marriage where my husband is not working .he is looking for work and always having meetings etc and on the phone or computer and makes me lunch etc but i just want him to bring some income in...