Hi,
I went out with a girl 3 times and wondering if she goes out with me looking at me as a friend, out of politeness, or whether she has romantic interests in me.
I know her as she is a friend of an ex from a couple of years ago. The ex is no longer in the country and out of the picture.
She is somewhat shy and reserved, making it a bit difficult to gauge her interest in me.
I'll give the info in dot points, I will add my thoughts in brackets:
-We see each other on Saturdays, I pick her up, we go for drinks. Each of the 3 times I was the one who proposed to meet, and each time I got the bill for both our parts. (if she thought it was just as friends, I would expect her to pay for her share)
-She seems shy/nervous around me, but this is less obvious now. She plays with her hair when talking with me.
-She really dressed up the first 2 times we went out, yet last night she dressed much more casual (Losing interest?)
-She laughs at my jokes.
-The first time we went out, the next morning I got an sms telling me she had a good time and thanking me. The 2nd time we went out she sent me a similar sms but in the evening, and the third time I sent her an sms (she had a bit to drink and I asked her how she was feeling). This time she didn't say she had a good time though. (Again, losing interest?)
-Her sms's have become more scarce, and they are usually "cut off" by her saying "I'll let you rest then, have a good night/day". (If she was into me, I'd expect her to want sms chats to keep going)
-She has never asked me about my ex and she know I still keep contact with her. (this would be a perfect way to give me a sign that she is not interested, but has not done so)
-She mentioned her ex bf (she doesn't know I know about him) but has only referred to him as a friend of hers (if she saw me only as a friend, would she not say ex boyfriend, rather than a friend of hers?)
So, overall I am very unsure of what is going on.
I've shown some slight signs of interest (sms her, propose to meet up each time, take her to romantic, quiet places) but have not really made my intentions very clear and have not made any moves.
I believe there is a chance she may be confused as to my intentions as well.
At this stage I will now wait to see when she sms's me next, which I will use to gauge her interest in me. I feel a bit uneasy resting the whole "fate of the relationship" on something this simple, but I do not feel I have another option.
Any advice is appreciated.