Originally Posted by
Wakeup
He does this because you let him. He does it because you keep a door open for him to walk through and he's trying to do just that. You keeping a door open is unfair to yourself and especially to your boyfriend, yourself and your child since you are jeopardising your union and will disrupting your child's life if you should let "jack" waltz back in.
Why don't you just shut him down so that you don't have to think about his false promises? Why not close that door. As you said, he had his chance and now it's too late ~ make it so.
I'll add that perhaps you and your bf should book a reliable babysitter and take off for the weekend or an over-nighter. Just the two of you book a hotel room with a jacuzzi tub, have a romantic dinner and then just re-connect sexually/romantically/verbally without worrying about the kid. Do something together without baby at least once a month. Do what you'd do with "Jack" except do it with that man that actually loves you.