Hi, I am new to this site so hopefully I'm posting this in the right place.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for over two years and are currently living together. Lately our relationship has not been that good, it does not feel very strong. There has been an ongoing problem with him having a low libido for quite a while, which causes frustration for the both of us and makes him really upset with himself.
Lately though I am feeling increasingly unhappy. I don't believe this is the issue as we both try our best to work on it. He works a lot, about 50 hours a week at a very physical job and basically does no housework at all, which really really gets on my nerves because he promised me it wouldn't be like this when we first moved in together (although he was not working nearly as many hours initially...) I just find it really aggravating that he says he's too tired for either of these things, and I'm feeling that we're not spending as much quality time together, yet he's never too tired to play the xbox...
I am quite lost, and have let him know my feelings (well, not completely...) but I just don't know how to fix us. I am constantly hounding him which I know I shouldn't but I really can't help it or hold myself back. I feel like I really need to cut him some slack and let him adjust to his new position at work but I just can't.
I began my first year at university this year, and there has been a lot of other changes in my life (including moving in together). I have been quite stressed a lot of the time. But feeling like this relationship isn't going to work because of housework seems ridiculous to me, I am wondering if I am placing blame and these feelings upon him for other reasons, which actually have nothing to do with him? He is really supportive and a good partner, he encourages me with my goals, supports me financially and he doesn't expect me to clean the house or anything and I don't really clean much anyway, so getting mad at him for it is so hypocritical.
We have talked about how our relationship needs work and we both want to work on it. So what the hell is my problem? Why do I feel so upset? Am I the one causing all the problems?