advice on contact

[countingtoten]

Hi. Just asking for opinions as don't want to make similar mistakes to in the past. Met a guy online and was talking for a few days and arranged to meet last sun. He was nervous as has a slght physical disability but i assured him i wasn't so shallow as to be put off by that. However, a few hours before we were due to meet he cancelled by text saying he was unwell and was really apologetic. We resceduled and are meant to be meeting this sunday. No times etc arranged. On mon i text to see if he was feeling better and we swapped a few messages. But i haven't heard from him since. When do i contact him to see if sun is still on or do you think he may have lost interest? I dont want to be the one initiating contact each time?

[Maple1714]

Sounds like he is just scared....just contact him and tell him you are really looking forward to meeting him this Sunday and *you* give him a time and place. Say..."Does 2pm work for you at blah blah?"

[smackie9]

I think he is feeling too pressured so it would be best to not force the issue till he gets more comfortable with the idea of meeting you. Sometimes you have to let them take the initiaive. That means they have worked through the anxiety and feel better about making that next step. Hold off and see if he contacts you. If he doesn't then he isn't ready to date anyone, until he gets over his insecurities.

[countingtoten]

Yeah he is scared. Has dealt with some rejections based on his disability and doesn't want to risk getting hurt again at the mo. Shame but i too aren't really in a poitison to risk any more rejection if things progressed so prevention is better than cure so they say! Xx

[bcgirl]

Well u did your part, the ball is in his court now. He seems shy and perhaps embarrassed that u may not like him or shy about his disabilities. He has got to man up and face life full on. Don't call him, he will have to be the one to contact u if he wants a date

[askdanica]

I agree with @bcgirl. You already did your part. It's time for him to make a move. Don't contact him. If he is really interested with you, then he will certainly make an effort to contact you no matter what.

[InYourFACE]

he shuould be the one that lead in the begining being a men. but anywa maybe on friday.or the same day you call in the morning like you areee happy and want tto know if he is ready for the meeeting. even thou he should tell you on tiime if he will not come. at a certain point point you need to stop and let it go.cause its stupid to keep waiting for no reason. and be careful with online people.not all have good inittentions