In a long distance relationship, 5 months now. When we are together it's amazing, both ways. Problem is we are 900 miles apart right now. I started feeling a bit insecure not that he was cheating or anything but just wanted to get clarity. We have been exclusive for about 3 months now. The idea has been thrown out there that I might move back (its my home town) if we want to take this farther. This has all been guided talk from him, I don't want to pressure him or the relationship, 5 months is not long. Him being a man and me a women I hate to assume things and I was getting a little frustrated so I wanted to talk about us to figure out what he thought. I know he means what he says when he tells me he thinks of me and the what nots but we got into a misunderstanding while (texting imagine that) last week. I was unable to get back to him and he felt I was mad and wanted to end things. He sent a snappy message fine it over. When I was able to get back to him he understood and said he was sorry.
It was really bugging me so I thought talking to him about it would help. Wrong, he is not good at expressing emotion (which I know he does in his own little way) but he said he felt it was right to say at the time. I told him I don't know what that means. Do you want it to be over, or? He said I mean everything to him and he does not want to hurt me (not sounding good to me) and I should decide. To me it sounds like a cop out, he seems to care but he can't tell me he wants the relationship nor is he willing to work for it? It was really quite on the phone I don't want to push him, I tried to explain that I don't understand what he means and it ended up with him saying he had to go. I could tell he was upset.
I have not called him back and don't know if I should. Do I give him time? Do I move on? We are in our mid to late thirties, on his end a lot has been going on with work and other distractions. What do I do? I do care for him, I believe he cares for me or am I all wrong?