Originally Posted by
bob the brave
A while back a girl at work initially showed interest and then later rejected me in part because I was too short. She then hooked up with a player also at work. Here's a little background to give you a picture:
SHE) 38 year old, single mother (she does not have custody). College educated. She smokes, drinks and has a wonderful personality, great sense of humor, great communication skills.
PLAYER) 32 year old. No college or skilled trade. (He works in the shipping department). He lives with the mother of his two daughters but refuses to marry her. He stays out all night either on ONS or gambling at casinos and then lies to her about this. Finally, as a result they have separated although they still live in the same house. This guy collects girl friends only to stroke his ego and then dumps them when he grows bored.
At work he would run me down making jokes about my size (5'9" 169 lbs) in front of this girl and then after they hooked up he came to my office and to tell me, "He screwed her and there is nothing I can do about it." just to stroke his ego. She dosen't know he said this. During this time, she sat with him at lunch and pretty much treated my like ****.
Months later she came to me complaining this guy is a zero and wanted to know if i care for her? I did, but was hurt and thought it couldn't really matter to her anyway so I said no.
Now, 6 months later she is married to someone outside the company. She tried to make friends with me. I tried, but it just didn't ring true with me. She eventually made friends with the player again.
My interest in this girl was purely sincere. I am not a player. I feel I was unduely disrepected by both and ignore them both except to handle job related issues. My problem is that the player is very smooth socially and all the girls at work eat lunch with him (company is very small with only15 people) despite his reputation. Because of this, I eat lunch alone. They all think he is a wonderful guy (I know she knows different, but sociallizes with him just to prevent being alone) and I am an anti-social prude. It makes me feel sad.
Do you think I am overracting or justified in not speaking to them?