I want to get married – he wants to change the subject

[LoveBobo]

I agree with the above members. Enjoy the relationship. You have to understand that he may have different priorities at this particular time in his life.

[mspandaroo]

A few months later after getting into the cycle again, we ended up breaking up for good. The values were not aligned for the future.

[Cerby]

A few months later after getting into the cycle again, we ended up breaking up for good. The values were not aligned for the future.

For the better.

[VincenzoG91]

I am shocked.

[mspandaroo]

It's painful but no contact is the way to go.

[smackie9]

he sort of expressed that he will be giving up his dreams if he gets really serious and has kids.

Any advice here?

He is telling you that even tho he enjoys the sex and having your company, he isn't interested in marriage or having kids. You should be movin on sister because your overies are going to be dried up before he makes up his mind.

Tip: when you first start dating someone, you should put it out on the table what your expectations are, and not assume they want the samething or they will later.....that's just stupid talk.

[Cerby]

He is telling you that even tho he enjoys the sex and having your company, he isn't interested in marriage or having kids. You should be movin on sister because your overies are going to be dried up before he makes up his mind.

Tip: when you first start dating someone, you should put it out on the table what your expectations are, and not assume they want the samething or they will later.....that's just stupid talk.

A little late to the party today Smackie? They broke up.

[sadie_genie]

Date as many men as you can with the same mindset as you (those who wants marriage and kids) and perhaps at the end, you would be able to have a kid or two before your ovaries dries up. At the age of 30, it is already kind of late to have kids. At age 35, it becomes very very risky. But remember to keep a clear mind at all times and not allow yourself to be overly desperate.

[smackie9]

A little late to the party today Smackie? They broke up.

Stress at work is messin my head up these days.

[Lulu]

so in her situation (pre-breakup) would it be best to say "I want a family and kids- if you can't decide now then I am going to date other people but we can still date, also" (making it clear there would be no sexual contact, just dating for now)? Would that push a guy away or make him decide faster that he would want to seal the deal??

[smackie9]

so in her situation (pre-breakup) would it be best to say "I want a family and kids- if you can't decide now then I am going to date other people but we can still date, also" (making it clear there would be no sexual contact, just dating for now)? Would that push a guy away or make him decide faster that he would want to seal the deal??

That is manipulation...typical female move to try and get what she wants....BOOOO!

[Albytoy]

Giving up his dreams would clearly not be a good thing for your relationship.
You guys can probably figure a way to get in a serious relationship while you both keep your jobs and activities. That's probably one the most common problems a couple has to face, finding a balance between professional and private life...