I have been dating my boyfriend for over 2 years. We are the same age, he's my best friend and we have an amazing sex life. We love each other intensely, and I have considered him my 'soul mate' since the beginning (however, he is my first love so I sometimes wonder if that's why). We get in a fight every month or two (nothing serious), but always work it out soon after. About 6 months into our relationship I looked at his history and found it filled with porn. At that point in our relationship we were hanging out and having sex everyday, so it confused me why he needed it. After a while it started to bother me and I asked him to stop 'conditionally'. I asked him to slow down a ton, not lie to me about it and not watch it the day we see each other. I even offered to watch it with him, which he's never been interested in. I, in turn, promised to not snoop through his history and trust him.
The other day I sent him an email after a fight and immediately regretted it. I signed onto his email to delete it and saw an email from a 'live sex' website saying he made an account (at 4am on the night/morning before he saw me). I checked out the website and it's pretty much a place you can video chat with porn stars.
I got really upset and told him, but he's completely turned it around on me for snooping through his email. He said that it was a popup telling him it was free but when he made an account, he found out you can only watch the girls - you have to pay to live chat with them (which I verified). I've apologized to him (I do feel badly for going in his email) and have made a real effort to work this out, despite the fact that I'm extremely upset about it - but I haven't gotten any type of apology from him. He seems to think it's not a big deal. My question is - am I right to be upset? I do believe that he didn't end up paying and actually two-way video chatting , but I feel like the entire idea of being interested in live video chatting with naked woman is very alarming and a bit disturbing. What can I do to make sure this isn't something he's ever going to do again, without being a snooper? Is this something I should break up with him over?