Hey
I apologise in advance for the essay
Met the guy early June at a party..was really drunk, invited him back to mine to a mini after party with my friends, he tried to hook up, i refused, he left at like 6am
Then he asked me out on a date. We went on a date, massive effort, really expensive restaurant blah blah blah and then after that he came round and we hung out a few times
We hooked up mid July, pretty much guilted me into it saying i was holding back on him. After this it was filthy messges galore..one sided! i was always the one that had to send pics...
He travels a lot for work, communication is rubbish up to a week no contact (i'm not a needy girl but that is a bit ridiculous)
I went on holiday for 2 weeks and he literally messaged all day long saying he missed me and i should come back.. i came back a day early so i could see him before he went away again and then he turns up at mine so late (just enough time for hooking up)
When he gets back he comes over blah blah blah we had a nice day..and then the day after at 3am he calls me really drunk saying i miss you...i wanna be with you..i had a really bad day at work..then i told him to get in a taxi and come over, i waited up for him but he never showed, he called me at 6am (ridiculous) saying he was coming over and then he feel asleep... i know he booked the cab because the car company called me when they couldn't get hold of him (we use the same one)
So anyway, what happened is that he had to have knee surgery.....he races cars and is extremely outdoorsy... so i guess he was pretty down about it...
We had dinner (Early August) and he confirmed surgery was scheduled for October
Communication gets really shit again throughout August and this time he wouldnt even want to hang out
Example message: getting home around 9, running errands...i'm not great company today...in a bad place..hurt my back and dealing with knee...how was festival?
and by beginning of September and i had enough.
So i sent him these text messages:
It has been a pleasure meeting you and i wish you good luck with everything but i cannot deal with this any longer. If this is how you deal with crisis (Shutting people out) then there is no point taking this further because i will not be treated like this by anyone. I hope everything works out and good luck with the operation.
No reply didn't hear from him in 3 weeks(wasn't expecting to) but then i reflected on everything that happened and thought that perhaps i was too mean to him when he was going through stuff..so i sent him a nice message making sure he was well prepped for surgery and then we got chatting again... I asked him if we could start over and he wanted to...so anyway he came over a day before surgery and REALLY wanted to hook up but i just didnt! i hadnt seen him for a month and wasnt ready to get back to that straight off.. he got angry to the point of almost crying.. and was like what do i want from him first i say i dont want him and then i do and now i wont have sex with him..anyway he left and the next day we had a series of messages..(so angry i deleted them!!)
He had the surgery..i couldnt go see him because his mum was looking after him and obviously we are not officially together so it would have been awkward so spent the last 3-4weeks on whats app with him.. one sided..him demanding 'pictures' as he couldn't walk..he only ever responded to my messages never started a conversation...then last week he said he went to work and then straight home and i was furious.... he couldn't even try and see me?? so its been 12 days..i have not messaged and he has not bothered to message so i guess it is over right??