Hi,
When i met my boyfriend we were clubbing. When we started our relationship we always clubbed together. But lately (for the last 6 months) we never club together. I always party with my friends and he parties with his. When he does he always drinks so much that he barely knows his name. And when he drinks so much he gets angry and says bad things to me and these words really hurt. Every time he goes out with his friends something goes wrong. I always ask him to not come home so late, not later than 6am, because i don�t like being home alone. And he promises me that he wont, but he fails every time. I ask him to not drink so much so he wont say these things to me, but he does not listen to that either, he comes home waisted. Last time he called me at 5am and asked me to come and pick hi up, i did and waited for him for 15minutes, i called him and he said: oh, i see you, im coming. He never came and i called him back, he said: im in a taxi and almost home. I was so furious because he woke me up and begged me to come pick him up. That night i slept in the sofa because when we were going to sleep he started crying and i kept on asking him what was wrong and he would not tell me. Then he said, get the **** out. The morning after we had plans at 10am so i woke him up but he was so angry and out of the world (still waisted). I cried because i really needed him with me, because i could not do this thing we planned alone. But he refused to get up. Then after 15minutes of crying and we were really late he finally gave up. One time when we had been dating for two months he kissed another girl. He was trying to make his ex jealous because there she was, at the club, at the same time as him, looking at him when he did it. I was in another country shopping shoes for him when i found out. My friends were there and saw the whole thing. About two months ago he told me he was going to take that wekend easy and play fifa with his friend. I new that that night would turn out to be a crappy night for me. I had this feeling that this night would end badly. I was in at a girlfriends birthday party when he called me. He said: hi, im going to the club with my friend tonight. I heard that he was drunk. I got so angry because after all those crappy nights he would still do this to me!! I said: i cant do this!! i know how this night is going to end! i am going to be alone all night and you are going to come home wasted. I was so angry and pissed of and hurt that this was going to happen so i said: its either me or going down town one night and get waisted. He said: stop it! This is going to be fine. I said: i am serious, i cant do this anymore. He said: i am going to hang up. He hang up and did not care how i felt.
These stories are just few of many. Now i am sitting here so angry. For about a week ago he told me he was going to his friends birthday party. I was so angry, for the 100th time and asked him not to drink. He said okay. I was so happy. Tonight he got ready and then he said, i am leaving, bye love you. I said: are you not going by car? he said no my friend is picking me up. I thought instantly: oh god he is coming home waisted tonight. I asked him: are you going to drink? He said: just few beers.
I am so angry and i dont know what to do!! Pleeease give me some advices??. I think it is really wrong to tell him to stop drinking just for me, or is it?? I really need to get some answers.