I was dating this guy for a month. We are both 20. We connected strongly from the minute we met. He initiated us being official, had me meet his friends, told me many personal things about himself, basically all normal signs that we were progressing well. He started to get distant on me, and then told me he wanted to break up. He said he "wasn't able to be what I needed" and that I "wasn't willing to be what he wanted" (even though he never explained what this meant because he's never mentioned a problem before). We both agreed that he didn't know what he wanted.
He has depression, claims it's been getting worse and that he needed to be around people with issues like he has. He said I was too emotionally stable. (??) and that he started dating me because he was lonely, "like really lonely", but that he did really like me.
He said several times during the break up that he likes me and cares about me. But he also mentioned that his ex (whom he helped to set up with his roommate) had sex with the roommate who then told her he had been cheating the whole time, and my (ex)boyfriend said he was having to comfort her. He said "i would feel dishonest to both of you if something happened".
At the end of the conversation, he said that he wants to be alone for a while to figure everything out. But that this might just be a hiatus. He said to talk to him in a month when he has it all figured out. I replied that he's not allowed to come back to me unless he's serious and ready this time. He agreed that that was fair.
Then he brought things back to me at my apartment. We didn't talk, just said hi and goodbye (I didn't give him a chance to say anything really).
So after all this I was mostly ok with letting him go. As I was pretty confident he was done with us and it had ended very amicably and friendly.
Then only about an hour after he got home from seeing me, he messages me on facebook saying ":/... I like you"
W.TF is going on?? I don't want to contact him, he dumped me. I only replied saying to give it an hour and he would change his mind. (a bit snarky perhaps) It just seems odd to me that he would say this after breaking up with me, with really no time to begin to miss me or anything. Obviously not a booty call. why would he dump me then say he likes me?