Cold turkey

[andyroy]

Hi Friends,

I dated this girl who was from another country and another religion for 2 years. Her parents were against the relationship due to religious differences, and she had left her family for me and came to live with me, due to immigration issues she had to live the country and go back to her country, when she went back we used to have a lot of arguments and fights. Our love was strong but, the problem was she was uneducated and the long distance had a lot of issues. One day she just sent me an email saying she was not happy and wanted to call it off......that was just before she had to come back to visit me. I need suggestions what should I do, she has gone called turkey on me and i havent got a closure.....i have all her memories with me, and its easier for her to get over things since where she lives i have never visited...do you think its a good idea to go find her and speak to her what happened? I feel that she went back to the family.... she has cut all form of communication

please advice

[Axis]

If you really love her, go to her country and tell her to her face about your feeling and discuss what u both gonna do with this relationship. It might change the thing, it might not. But at least as a guy you make an effort to go to her. LDR is really hard, but if two hard are meant to be, it will be! no matter how long the distance are.

[Wakeup]

You're different religiouns and her parents disapprove of you, she's uneducated and has no job prospects where you live when she left you had a lot of arguements and fights, now she is trying to ignore you and your attempts.

Think logically and without using your emotions. This union was NOT meant to be longer than her legal stay in your country. Let it go and let her get on with her life in her own country and with a man who is of the same religion. You're going to place even more strain on her relationship with her family if you insist on going there and disrupting her once again.

Find someone who is your religion who is a Canadian citizen and will not be deported.

[smackie9]

If I were in her shoes I would be pissed too.....she was looking for marriage you idiot and you didn't pull it off....instead you let her get shipped back home to face her parents in humility. Too late now her parents have prospective husbands lined up for her.

[Wakeup]

If that's the case,^^^ then thank god he didn't pull it off.

[HeartIsAching]

Why? Maybe he was fine with an uneducated stay-at-home wife. Different religions and parental disapproval can be minor things.

[freethinker31]

Hi Friends,

I dated this girl who was from another country and another religion for 2 years. Her parents were against the relationship due to religious differences, and she had left her family for me and came to live with me, due to immigration issues she had to live the country and go back to her country, when she went back we used to have a lot of arguments and fights. Our love was strong but, the problem was she was uneducated and the long distance had a lot of issues. One day she just sent me an email saying she was not happy and wanted to call it off......that was just before she had to come back to visit me. I need suggestions what should I do, she has gone called turkey on me and i havent got a closure.....i have all her memories with me, and its easier for her to get over things since where she lives i have never visited...do you think its a good idea to go find her and speak to her what happened? I feel that she went back to the family.... she has cut all form of communication

please advice

It's actually up to you. If you can live your life without proper closure then just drop the relationship. But if you think you will be forever haunted with the fact that there hasn't been proper closure, then you must go and speak to her.

[Boisdevie]

Proper closure? What complete bullshite. Don't waste your money and time on trying to go and see her making some Disney-esque grand gesture. Accept that you're better off without her.