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    Something my girlfriend said that bothers me

    I've been dating with my girlfriend for nearly a year and we're doing so great, but the other night she said something that I can't get out of my head and is really bothering me for some reason..

    So here's the story:
    I was walking my girlfriend home and we were talking about stuff and she said that I'm normally not her type. (Thats not the thing that bothers me tho). So I just asked like then why'd you start dating with me then, and she said because I'm different from the other guys she is interested in. (Can this be a good thing in any way, cause I can't see it being). So we kept talking and then she said something what I understood that she doesn't think I'm good looking, but I just let that be. But that started bothering me a little bit, so next day I talked to her and asked again why is she dating with me if I'm not good looking, and she said I understood her wrong. What she meant is that she has seen hotter guys etc, but I'm still good looking.
    Now thats the thing, even tho it's normal and of course she has seen better looking guys, but it's not like I want to hear it from her. Yes, I did know that she had seen and probably knew better looking guys, but why does she have to tell me that? I never thought of it, until now and I can't get it out of my head. Is there something I can do? This really does bother me, like why the hell would tell me that.. I don't know if you guys think I'm being dramatic or something, but it just really bothers me :l
    Oh and before saying I should talk to her, could you explain me what I should say? Because all I can imagine happening is that I tell her that it hurt me that she said it, and only thing that happens is her getting upset.
    So could somebody please help, also a girls point of view would be nice on this one, thanks!

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    If she's very young, she might just be discovering the difference between what is considered "hot" by common standards (movies, TV, etc), and what she is attracted to. So, nothing to be worried about.

    Or, maybe she means that she isn't as physically attracted to you as she is to other guys she's met/seen. Not a very nice thing to say or hear... but as long as everything is fine between the two of you, it still is nothing to be worried about :-).

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    Quote Originally Posted by searock View Post
    If she's very young, she might just be discovering the difference between what is considered "hot" by common standards (movies, TV, etc), and what she is attracted to. So, nothing to be worried about.

    Or, maybe she means that she isn't as physically attracted to you as she is to other guys she's met/seen. Not a very nice thing to say or hear... but as long as everything is fine between the two of you, it still is nothing to be worried about :-).
    Thanks for the reply. Everything is fine, and I know that she didn't mean to hurt me or anything, and I also know it should not be anything to take too seriously, things like this just bothers me because it's not something I wan't to hear :/

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    So you think it's the second option then?

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    Quote Originally Posted by searock View Post
    So you think it's the second option then?
    I honestly have no idea.. She do love me, and I can tell she really enjoys my company. She just chooses her words wrong a alot, and sometimes they hurts/starts bothering me. Normally I talk about them with her, and everything goes back to being good again but I just don't know how I can talk to her about this one. It is kinda complicated.

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    Your girlfriend sounds a bit like me - my words far too often come out sounding wrong.

    I would imagine that she's discovered that she's not as shallow as she thought. She's learned that average-joe guys have a lot of offer. I actually think this comment was more about her self discovery than it is about you.

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