Originally Posted by
eddiedelgado
Congratulations. You seem to really care for her and she seems to care for you.
Sex part - too much angst and worry, not enough enjoyment. This is not the point of having sex at all.
One way of taking your mind out of how big or how small something is, etc, etc is to change a little bit the
expectations. if your goal is to enjoy, have fun, this changes the whole scenario.
Until the pressure if off (for both of you) it will naturally be more fun.
Women (and people in general) have ssex with their BRAINS first. This is
the most important sexual organ of a person.
Men can be very visual. Women like to hear "words". You can really
arouse her in many ways before you even take her to bed.
don't go back EVER to talking about what it was like with her ex and with your ex, too many wrong people
in this mixture.
When you start talking about what sex was like with your ex or with her ex, immediately certain pictures start
to pop up in your head. No good.
Tell you a game I would play with her tonight. Go text her this question during the day: "Name at least
3 things that you enjoy in bed"
She will have to go up to her head and start making an inventory to be able to answer that question. She
will also start getting certain feelings too.
Text her later during the day and ask her to show you one of those things.
Zero expectations. ZERO. Just have fun. This is not to show off your skills (neither of you).
I hope it helps.