Does he like me, or is this erotomania?

[hanabi]

I have a guy friend in college, and we're in the same club. He's pretty popular in school. I know many girls who have a crush on him, even gays, and some of my closest friends have told me they like him because he is handsome. But they have this image of him as a pretty snob person and that he would only reply with one-word answers. They say we're close, but I don't really think so. We seldom see each other in school due to difference in schedules and difference in courses/majors/classes. Last year, we barely talked to each other. Perhaps we just seem close because we have similar interests and we get to talk about these?

But recently, I've been getting the feeling that he somehow likes me, perhaps very much as a friend or something more?

So here are some instances: I don't know if it's just my imagination, and that others don't see it, but when I bump into him in school, I would always see that he is smiling. When I had a fight with a common friend we have, I heard from my other friends that he tried to patch things up between me and the common friend (the common friend is a male, and is a classmate of his). One time, out of the blue, he messaged me saying that he had a dream about me, and in that dream, he saw that I was in good terms again with the common friend I had a fight with. Also, when his other clubs had events, he messaged me, inviting me to go. I don't know if he does this to other people as well. And then one time, very recently, he suddenly PM-ed me on Facebook about a certain person from school who suddenly added him up and chatted him. He was kinda creeped out by that and asked me whether he should reply and what he should say. He also teases me to my past crush, and I don't really know how he knew I had a crush on that someone in the past. There was also this one time when I just posted a quite meaningless question ("what's the name of this biscuit? because I forgot what it's called.") on Twitter, and then he replied. Afterwards, he messaged me on FB, and he sent me a link of the biscuit's TV ad. Apparently, he googled the biscuit. He also frequently likes my comments and posts on FB. He has also been sending me links of random funny videos or funny images or games on chat, but when I reply to his messages, he won't respond back. It's kinda confusing and frustrating.

Is he just being nice? Or just being friendly? In my point of view, we aren't really that close. We seldom see each other, so most of our interaction is online. Is my feeling (that he *likes* me) true? Or am I just going through erotomania? He's pretty popular. And I'm not that pretty, in fact, I'm chubby. And I'm not really lady-like either. I'm quite new to this. I've never had anyone before. I'm not sure if I like him either, or I am just being influenced by my friends who have a crush on him.

Btw, erotomania, if you don't know, is the delusional feeling that someone has a crush on or is in love with him or her. I really wouldn't want to have this kind of delusion. If I'm being delusional, how should I get rid of it? Sorry for the long question. I do hope you get to answer my query! Thank you in advance.

[AnnonymousMan]

Sounds like he is just friendly because I do the same crap he does to chicks. If he shows off in front of you, stares at you, uses your name a lot or even gets nervous than he probably likes you. Other than watching his body language you won't know unless you ask. Try the old school approach. Have a friend find out for you.

[Wakeup]

but when I reply to his messages, he won't respond back.

that's because it sounds like he's sending out spam emails to everyone on his contacts list and doesn't expect anyone to respond to them. If they do, he just doesn't want to keep the topic going.

It sounds like you're just one of his "associates" who happen to be in the same group.

Google: "Limerence" and read the Wiki link to it... I think if you know what you're experiencing, you'll be able to do the mental work to get over your crush.

If he's handsome and aloof then I suspect that lots of young girls are in limerence over him. "Erotomania"... Uhm, no! He's not displaying any symptoms of being in love with you, dear.