Why not just tell the truth

[loveagain]

Two weeks ago I got a Facebook event invite for a party in December. I wrote the hostess back that i was looking forward to going, but didn't click that I was going because I had to see if I could get time off work first. She never acknowledged, which was a little strange because usually she would.

I got a date for the party, I swapped schedules with someone so I'd have time off to go, and I go to click that I'm "going" and the invitation has disappeared, so I text her and she writes back "I think I'm going to have to cancel that" then 5 minutes later "it was canceled" I wrote "I'm sorry to hear that, I was looking forward to it, is everything ok with you guys?" she just writes "sorry for the cancel".

Something didn't feel right. Today I found out that the party is still on, it was just me that was uninvited. I don't know why 100%, but I suspect it is because an ex-GF of mine is going, and either she told them she didn't want me there or the people hosting it thought it would be best. I respect that - I mean it sucks, but I understand - if it was a small affair for a few couples I'd stay away, this is probably going to be over 100 people, and it wouldn't have been a problem for me or my date. (btw, I didn't know my ex was invited, after we broke up she defriended and blocked me) I might have said thanks for the invite but it's probably best I don't go, if I'd been told.

The hostess is a nice girl and I feel she was put in the middle, and told a white lie to not hurt my feelings; but I wish she had told the truth and said "I'm sorry, your ex is coming and we think it's not a good idea for both of you to be here." (btw, we never fought, no drama, neither of us are the type to make a scene.) I would've said, that's too bad but I understand. Maybe next time you have something planned it'll work out better. On the other hand, maybe it lets me know who are my real friends.

SMH

[Maple1714]

That sucks, sorry that happened. Yeah, the hostess should have just been up front with you, but obviously she is a pussy. I have been told in the past that i wasn't aloud to bring a date somewhere....like to a wedding...b/c my ex would be there. I was a bit sour about that b/c it had been 6 months or so since I broke up with my ex. He felt so uncomfortable seeing me there alone he left right after the ceremony anyway.

Anyway, crappy situation. I would just forget about it and not talk to the hostess anymore.