Originally Posted by
Raffa1
Hi...any thoughts gratefully received as I don't have anyone to talk to about this. I have been in a loving relationship (normal ups and downs) for nearly 4 years. We have recently moved in together. I have had some health issues in the last year or so....one of the effects of this has been fatigue and low libido and this has definitely affected our sex life and our ability to communicate. Last week I discovered my boyfriend has been phoning sex lines for some time. I know he uses porn and have no problem with this, but sex lines seems more like cheating. I feel hurt and worried about this for several reasons....firstly, i think he phoned because he needed something more personal and thrilling than porn and I'm worried that this will progress over time to needing a "real cheating experience". Secondly, I'm just totally floored by the fact that the deceit has been going on for some time.
He has not tried to defend his actions (despite saying he has been sexually frustrated), and he admits that he has been cruel and disrespectful to me. He has promised to change his behaviour, but I'm not sure I can move forward from this.