Is there something wrong with me??

[RDevnaney]

Hi, I'm a 21 year old male, in my last year of university, desperately worried about how my head works. I write this because, since I was 15, I have never managed to have a girlfriend that lasted longer than a couple of months. I'm really starting to feel scared now as pattern has remained though out university too. The typical story is, I meet a girl, think she is attractive, get physical and then one day (usually a few weeks in) I just wake up and feel nothing for her. I know you might find it hard to believe, but I'm an honest and genuine person. A girl just left my flat today after I told her I didn't fancy her anymore and I feel like crap. I don't want to hurt anyone so I really want to know, what the hell is wrong with me? My parents have been happy together for 30 years and I can't seem to last a month. Will this change? Has anybody else got experiences like this? The majority of my friends and peers are in relationships so I know its not an age thing.

Thanks for listening,

[dem862]

You like being single. Next.

[AnnonymousMan]

I don't want to hurt anyone so I really want to know, what the hell is wrong with me?

How about dating a girl and genuinely trying to build up to something instead of ****ing her within the first week. Try to go slow and build up a connection with her and see if you start falling in love. If you go straight for ****ing her and don't let some substance happen then you probably won't develop feelings for her. At least this works for some people so try it out on yourself.

[searock]

Exactly... stop getting into "relationships" with girls you don't even know, just because you find them attractive. Get to know them first, create an emotional bond of trust and respect and caring for each other... then move to the next stage (sex).

[AnnonymousMan]

Exactly... stop getting into "relationships" with girls you don't even know, just because you find them attractive. Get to know them first, create an emotional bond of trust and respect and caring for each other... then move to the next stage (sex).

^ Words of wisdom.