I never ever thought I would face this problem but I seem to have somehow fallen in love with a female workmate. I am 26, she is 31. My heart is silently breaking and I don't know what to do.
We started working together exactly a year ago and for the last few months we have become very close. We are like best friends, know each others secrets, talk about everything, love the same things, know exactly what each other is thinking at the same time....pretty much what many regard as soul mates.
Here is the problem, she is married and has a young daughter. I fight constantly with myself as to what I should do...
1. Leave her as she is - leave our friendship intact and keep my feelings to myself
2. Tell her how I feel, but let her know I expect nothing from her as I know her situation is complicated. (I just can't bare to not tell her how special she is)
3. Leave my job, distance myself from her in the hope that my feelings dissipate. (What if she is "the one")
4. Wait it out, however long it takes and see where her relationship goes (She has told me various things like she doesn't trust hubby and that its hard to say that you can be with the same person forever)
I'm certain she couldn't get on with her husband as good as she does with me. It seems like becoming pregnant with their daughter meant they got married by default.
Any advice is appreciated - good bad and ugly.
I expect the usual, If you love her, let her be happy etc.... But there is also the risk I run of letting her go when I know she could be the 1!!
Head v Heart