I know it is wrong to snoop, but I had this gut feeling something was going on. Come to find my bf messaging and chatting with another girl via Fb, text and calls. There was a few flirty messages all from him that were red flags to me, such included would love to see you again, what's up good looking. There was nothing sexual. But, I, of course, was still furious. I waited a couple of weeks and then passively confronted him if he had any secrets he was keeping from me and if he was interested in seeing other people. He said there are none and didn't want to see other people. He had mentioned this girl to me in the past, so I asked if anything was going on there. He said she's just an old high school friend he recently reconnected with and grabbed coffee once.
Stupid me, I gave him the benefit of the doubt. Then come to find, he continued his communication with her. At times, asking to hang out. However, she never seemed to be free due to work. I finally couldn't take it anymore during Thanksgiving break and told him I snooped and saw his communications with her. He didn't deny it but insisted she means nothing to him and have no feelings or interest for her. He continued to say he felt like he wasn't making me happy and made the stupid mistake in rather talking to me about it decided to befriend a new friend that knew nothing about him. He admitted he befriended her on Fb, met up only once for coffee, occasionally messaged her and wasn't sure how I was going to react with him making a new friend that's a girl so he kept it from me. He feels horrible, knows what he did wrong, has defriended her on Fb, deleted her contact information on his phone and even cried (he never cries). He promises he will never communicate with her, to always tell me the truth, never do this again and understands why I snooped. He pleads for another chance and completely owes up to his mistake. I obmit I have been questioning and hounding him since, which I admit is hard to take. But he, for the most part, has been cooperative, answering my questions, saying he's sorry, saying he'll be the best bf going forward.*
Should I give him another chance? Would you?