Originally Posted by
Over The Fence
The concern here is that you're bringing the break-up in as a conversation piece. You have the strength to start (which is the hard part), you just need to follow through. When you bring it up, he throws it back at you and pretty much says it is your fault that you want to break up. It may be, it may not, but at this point, it doesn't matter anymore. You know what you need to do, so the conversation should be one sided. Start it off with "I want to break up, and I've made up my mind about it." From there, the conversation will go into pleading, begging, maybe crying...you need to get through all of that to come out better on the other side. Also, breaking up WILL hurt him, but that is the unfortunate, but necessary, reality.
If you are concerned about your physical safety, I recommend one of two things: 1) Do as I recommended above and leave when he is not around, or 2) Call a friend or family member and explain to them that you're going to break up with him, and have them call you back in 15 minutes to ensure you're safe. It needs to be someone close who CAN come and check on you.