She's A Little Too Quiet?
Ladies, I need some womanly insight on something.....
I met this gal through an online dating site called Christian Mingle. I liked what she wrote in her BIO and so I sent her an email asking if she wanted to connect. She wrote me back about an hour later and said she would love to connect with me. In her email she said I was "devastatingly handsome". I thought this was a little more than I deserve, but it was a very encouraging sign. So we started emailing each other back and forth and this went on for about three weeks, until finally we shared phone numbers and started talking on the phone. We have been doing this now for about two months.
We both live in Michigan, but she lives in a town north of me about 4 hours drive. So it's not like we can see each other on a regular basis. I have not driven up there yet to see her, because of some financial issues I'm currently having, but we have both expressed an interest in seeing each other person-to-person.
She is divorced after a 25 year marriage and has five kids. Aside from holding a full time job as director at a Children's Ministry she is also extremely busy with life stuff (running the kids around, functions, etc.). Just recently her ex husband announced he is moving back to Orlando to get his old job back, and so now she will have all five kids around the clock with no time to herself or anyone to help her run them around.
In the beginning she would send me little messages and even call me, but lately she hasn't done either and I'm starting to wonder why. I was calling her about every other day and I send her little uplifting graphics I make, because I know she's really busy and could use a smile. But now I'm starting to back off on doing that stuff, because I'm not getting anything back from her. It's kind of hard to judge how someone really feels about you if you never hear from them. You know?
I know that she's not the talkative type. From the beginning whenever we talked on the phone I could hardly get her to say more than a few words at a time, so slowly I joked around and encouraged her to start talking more, but this seems to be a part of her personality. Regardless, if you're really interested in someone you shouldn't have to tell them to call you or to let you know how they feel. Maybe it's because she's busy. I don't know. I have a lot of talents, but ESP isn't one of them.
Any advice or suggestions would be welcome. Thanks.
— "Only that in you which is me can hear what I'm saying." ~Baba Ram Dass