me and my husband have been together for almost 9 yrs. we have two kids 7 and 4. almost 2 yrs ago i caught him in bed with my sister (6 yrs younger) the affair lasted about a year.
i agreed to try to work it out. about 3 months ago he became distance and hanging out with his friends more. he said his guilt for what he did is what hes struggling with. the beginning of nov he asked me and the kids to move out of our apartment and move in with my dad.he was not open to other options or willing to stop contact with his work friend's roommate, jill.
he bought her flowers Halloween night and had been sleeping at their house on and off for two weeks.
we have been separated for almost a month now.he says hes not sure if a divorce is the right thing.he says he misses and still loves me. but i need him to give up jill and he says its not about her its about how he hurt me with my sister and that he feels like he doesn't deserve me. hes not willing to give jill up for me but he says hes still confused. why would he tell me he loves and misses me but not willing to fight for us like i have? why wouldnt he just say i dont want to be with you instead of playing mind games? please help!