My ex and I broke up a month ago (we're both 20). Long story short he said he didn't want to be with me. Said it wasn't a "good time" cause of situations in his life and that we just didn't work together. I "wasn't what he wanted" and he "wasn't able to be what I wanted"
We broke up, he was messaging me the next day on FB saying he still liked me, the next week he missed me. Stuff like that. Once even said "please let me be with you again", but we agreed to talk about it after he had time to think, and after our exams were over (because neither of us needed more stress at that point).
He never brought it up again. I was just seriously confused by it all.
I finally broke No Contact (on my side, he had contacted me after the break up a few times) and just messaged him to say hi and see how he was-mostly because I missed talking to him and felt mean for avoiding him for so long even though he obviously wanted to talk. He was confused by me contacting him, but when we broke up he asked me to tell him when I was ok with being friends, if that ever happened. Which I am now, so I told him so. (I wasn't too torn up about the whole break up. A little upset, but we were only together a month before this, and there were obviously things going on in his life.)
We talked for like an hour, really friendly, until he started flirting again a little (a hard habit to break, lol) and I sort of shut him down (not being mean or anything, just jokingly, sarcastically). He immediately turned the conversation to telling me all about how he made out with his best friend's little sister whom he met the last week. haha
He has proceeded to contact me Every day since this. Messaging me out of the blue, posting things on my wall, commenting on anything I do. He's talking to me more now than when we were dating!
I don't want you all to take this as a "OMG does he want me back" post, because that's not what I'm asking, I'm just wondering if anyone has had an experience with an ex who ends the relationship and *actually* wants to be friends. Close friends.
I'm fine now with being friends. I like his personality and I love talking to him, but I've realized that we don't work as a couple. Personally, I think because we dated for such a short amount of time (only a month), we should be able to be friends now, but I'm getting mixed signals from him.
On one hand he broke up with me, and obviously moved to other girls (lol), and dropped the conversation about getting back together, but on the other he was asking to get back together in the first place, saying he missed me, and is now talking to me now more than ever.
I've always heard that guys don't really care to be friends with girls they don't want to "do". So I'm just wondering if being friends is possible or if he still has ulterior motives? Or do you think he's the rare kind that actually wants me to be a platonic friend in his life? I don't want to confuse the situation by us being on different pages.