Should I go back to get her number?

[Ali1234]

Last Saturday I went to get my hair cut and for some reason I really liked the girl that cut my hair? When chatting with her it seemed to me there was a bit of chemistry as I said I was going out in town later and she said she was also going out in town and even told me the places she was going. Surely that means something? For the record meeting a girl when getting a hair cut is the last place I would expect to, as you always look stupid getting your hair cut.

But sadly I ended up not going out in the same town as her so there was 0 chance of me bumping into her. Frustrated I went back 2 days later (Christmas eve) after I plucked up enough courage to go in and ask her for her number. But the hairdressing place was shut. I wouldn't let myself leave though without doing something about it so I bought a Christmas card and wrote in it something along the lines of

"I came to your hairdressing place today to ask for your number but it was shut . I should of asked for your number on Saturday but I thought I might see you out. x

P.S. here's my number..."

Now, to me this was a very bad idea as I spent the whole of Christmas wondering if she had got the card yet, which wasn't much fun.

It's nearly come full circle of it being a week and I'm still wondering. It seems to me that chances are she's probably read the card and not wanted to get in touch. But I can't help wondering is there a slim chance she never got the card, or didn't like getting the card and would of preferred me to ask in person? Or maybe the card seemed weird? (I don't do this kind of thing often)

So my question is should I go back and ask in person? Would this seem stalkerish? Should I just forget about it? Did I read into something when nothing was there and she just isn't interested?

It's driving me a bit nuts now so would greatly appreciate some advice.

[Love'sReject]

Personally, whether or not she liked you, I find that spending money and/or sending someone you don't know is usually not a good idea. I don't know if her clientele is largely women or includes men a decent amount of the times but if so she might be accustomed to having men do that and not comfortable/requiting affection. I am sure as an employee she is used to being pleasant to customers which includes men and occasionally has men misinterpret her customer service. Not saying that is the case but it could be.

[Ali1234]

Thanks, I think your right, not sure if it's worth going in and asking though to remove any doubt. Would feel much more comfortable doing this if I hadn't already sent the card.

[Love'sReject]

It probably isn't. She would've responded if your venture was to bear fruit.

[Ali1234]

Makes sense, thanks, think I can move on now with closure on that thought. Still have a tiny doubt she may have never gotten the card though (maybe the shop owner through it away for whatever reason) which I guess I will just have to put out my mind.

[smackie9]

Carrying on with a conversation is part of a hairdresser's job so it wasn't what you thought it was. We have guys coming on here thinking the same as you because a waitress or bartender flirted with them....it's just part of the job.

Slipping a note or sending a card is damn creepy. Don't do it again.

[Ali1234]

Thanks for the heads up, lesson learnt, will never do that again. That makes it easier in deciding not go back.

[smackie9]

Tip: it's best not to ask someone out when they are on the job. Some businesses find it unprofessional for an employee to be fraternizing with customers. I had a customer hit on me then ask if he could have my number right in from of another co-worker...I laughed it off, but it made me uncomfortable.

[aaron43]

Carrying on with a conversation is part of a hairdresser's job so it wasn't what you thought it was. We have guys coming on here thinking the same as you because a waitress or bartender flirted with them....it's just part of the job.

Slipping a note or sending a card is damn creepy. Don't do it again.

I agree with this. I enjoy flirting with the woman cutting my hair. Its fun but I know we aren't going to hook up later