I want to win her back

[dsmith2004]

Any help would be appreciated.

In early 30s and spent 10 weeks dating a fabulous girl. All ended suddenly at end November because she was just not sure what she wanted. I was shocked and hurt and thought it was going well. I didn't and still don't understand what happened.

But i licked my wounds and had a tough few weeks before Christmas. Took advice from friends and made no contact until yesterday...

Sent a quick text wishing her a happy Christmas and asking her if she would like to meet for a drink. She does and we are tomorrow

I know from a mutual friend/cousin that she had been told by her sisters that she was crazy to end things so soon but she did not contact me.

Would love to try again but don't want to pressure her. Any tips on how to approach this meeting. Enjoy it for what it is? Ignore what happened? Or catch up and then talk about what happened. We never knew each other before dating so its not as if two old friends are meeting up.

Thanks

[HeartIsAching]

Don't ignore it the elephant in the room. Acknowledge it, tell her you'd like to try again with absolutely no pressure. Just slow and easy and let her call the shots.

There is a chance she thinks that it's safe to just meet for drinks, and still doesn't want a relationship. Be prepared for that possibility.