I'm a dude, and I don't even agree with you guys including and especially Frenchie up there. You're reinforcing the false kindness/faux chivalry with the expectation of sex. If she doesn't want to have sex and she tells him clearly, he should either choose to break up with her if it's a barrier or stay with her knowing what to expect.
Two questions:
1. How much time have you spent together in 4.5 months? Seeing each other daily is different from a weekly coffee.
2. Why have you waited so long for sex? Are you a virgin? Are you not attracted to him? If the latter, you should let the poor guy go. Otherwise, it sounds like you are just using him to pay for your dates. Not classy.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
Why should she have sex with him just because they're in a relationship? She hasn't even stated how old she is.
If she doesn't want sex, that is her choice. But if she hasn't communicated that to him, then she's being dishonest. He has asked, she said so. She's making out with him, which is generally considered foreplay.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
Actually, that's what I was trying to get to the bottom of but she hasn't responded in some time..
Obligation? It's intimacy we're talking about. If the girl likes the guy and is comfortable in the notion he's for real why wouldn't she want to be sexually intimate? Girls like sex just as much as men....usually more. 5 months is way too long to figure out if the guy is to real.
Aren't you the guy who's still a virgin and never been in a relationship? Not making fun but if so, we can't possibly have an intelligent conversation on this matter. Sorry
That's stupid, male wishful thinking; us guys should quit assuming sex is a part of every relationship.
What difference does it make? I'm an expert. And for the record, I HAVE BEEN in a relationship,.
Yeah, it is but it shouldn't be a requirement; when one or both start EXPECTING things, then it gets ugly.
Yes, I am. What of it? Although, need I remind the forum that men can't be virgins?