help me to get out of my problem plzzzzz

[Harmony]

Hey friends...
1st of all.. my english is not thaaaat much, coz its my second language

I had a problem.. a love one.. I searched in the google for love forums to find this forum.. I read many problems here... I found that there is some members here who can fine conveniant solutions...

From 4 months... I was used to go to my friends' university... a girl liked me very much.. liked everything in my personality... she liked my behavior before I liked hers... So in only 6 days, we became friends..
but after 21 days... I decided to tell her that I am loving her...
She told me that she wanted to sit with me in a place... so we chose the university..
We spoke a lot... then, when she had to go... I said for her: you made me love you.. She was shocked.. but then she said that she can't refuse me.. then she asked me if I am ready for the future.. (by the way, I am 19, and she's 18).. I told her yeah.. ofcource... so, I walked with her to the beach, and I asked her: ok?.. she said: ok... So we left each others this day...

during these 4 months.. I was seeing her almost everyday.. since I haven't been accepted for a university... so I have freeeeee time... we had very nice moments with each others.. she said for me once: don't leave me coz I need you; and , needing you is not enough... She always tells me that she loves me more than I do towards her... I didn't come to the university for 3 consecutive days.. then I saw her.. I found a change in her face.. she told me that she slept only 20 minutes in these 3 days...........................

She told me once: One should continue what he started with.. and she said that I couldn't leave you....
After many and much nice moments... she started to realize the people started speaking on me and her... and she didn't want her father to know.. If he knew, he would let her leave the university.... anyhow...after a while...
she asked me to be friends, and act like friends, but we love each others entirely.. but never talk in love.. I accepted with her just because of her... so, after days.. we walked with each other, and we started talking in love, and she said for me: If I was loving you 10%, I am loving you now 100%.. I asked her for the reason, she said: you changed.. I feel that I am secure with you.. so.. after 5 days for this nice day.. She told me that everyone in the university is talking about us... then thought 5 minutes, and then she told me:
" forget me!" .. I asked her: why?? don say that!
she said: "forget me plz.. and dont open this subject again plz..
I didn't know what to say in that time (from 18 days).. so I put my face on my hands, and my tears fall... Then she went, and wrote an email for me: "thx and sorry, you plant the soul in my life.. but plz forgive me, and know that I am now not the person that you knew before, and welcome for you as a friend, and good bye for you as a beloved.."

And she asked me to come once/week to her university.. I accepted that..

So after one week.. I came.. I talked with her a lot.. I noticed that she had a little change toward me.. I didn't know...

The second time I saw her, I told her.. I am still loving you... she said: "why are you still talking in this subject, forget, and know that You and Me are just friends... and there is nothin inside me towards you... ( btw; she was always asking her friends about me during my abscence)... Then I said for her: "why are you doing that??? I know that you entirely love me".. she said: no, I dont love you... I looked at her, and then she said for me that she wants to go.. and she said for me to come next week................

I dont really know whats going on...
my friend said for me: "Don't see her for 2 weeks".. and I am trying to work on that...
I want her.. I love her...................... I am not sure now if she loves me or not!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

can you give me <prolonged> advices and helps????????? coz I like speaking in details...
I will really appreciate that...
your friend
edit: my problem is that I am really very very very emotional and romantic..
edit 2: my free time is soooo much

[diesel on air]

ignore her! she has to realise whats shes missing!
2 weeks is fine. Try not to call her, dont contact her at all!
After these 2 weeks she'll probably understand how much you mean to her. Good luck

[Harmony]

Ok.. this is my 6th day.. OMG..
I wanna ask...
how could I act after these 2 weeks with her????
If she had a negative feelings toward me because I didn't contact her, what should I do???
I hope you can help me...

[Junket]

Out of curiousity, what's your first language?

And thanks for giving us the heads up that english isn't your first language, cause you would've gotten heat from us if you didn't.

[Harmony]

lol...
ok, my 1st language is Arabic...

but that not much important as my problem...
I dont know.. would you all give me a solution?? I am living hard times...

[Zorro]

I dont think it mathers how long you stay away from here. Think you bether tell here that she has to make up here mind. I also think its a bad idea to have a lover that dosnt treats you with respect.

thats my opionion.

[Picollo]

why are u losing time with this girl? move on mate, she's a sunshine girl, a ***** who likes attention and tricks you to gave it to her but she doesnt provide you any.she just told you that she doesnt want anything with you but she also likes to be desired and to know that she has you on the palm of her hand.what she asks you, you'll do it for love... keep real and next her.

[bohemiandonut]

why are u losing time with this girl? move on mate, she's a sunshine girl, a ***** who likes attention and tricks you to gave it to her but she doesnt provide you any.she just told you that she doesnt want anything with you but she also likes to be desired and to know that she has you on the palm of her hand.what she asks you, you'll do it for love... keep real and next her.

Here's what your advice is worth, Picalloser:

[Harmony]

ok.. after 11 days of not seeing her...
I saw her waiting for me in a place that I usually go to...
but I changed my way to not see her... because the 2 weeks haven't finish yet..
but a friend of her told me that she's very angry from what happened... I dont know what to do right now..
I am thinking of telling her that I will accept of being a friend with her...
Oh damn.. but I still love her!!!!!

[Joe_Watson]

I am thinking of telling her that I will accept of being a friend with her...

Well, friendship is better than nothing, I suppose. But in your situation, I think there's something to be said for no contact. How about if she doesn't come around by the end of the two weeks, you move on with your life? Or after two weeks of no contact, you could go up to her and ask her to make up her mind once and for all. Just a thought. Hope it all works out for you and keep us posted.

[Harmony]

Well, friendship is better than nothing, I suppose. But in your situation, I think there's something to be said for no contact. How about if she doesn't come around by the end of the two weeks, you move on with your life? Or after two weeks of no contact, you could go up to her and ask her to make up her mind once and for all. Just a thought. Hope it all works out for you and keep us posted.

I think she dont have time to think, because she's always busy in her univeristy.. she is studying architecture engineering...
While its hard for me because of my freeeeee time..

I am thinking of asking her on monday (at the end of the 2 weeks) if she prefer to be friends or not.. and I am sure that she will say that she wants to be just a friend..
and by the way,, she's asking her friends about me if they are seeing me.. she missed me a lot.. but she always tell them that doesn't mean that I love him....
hope a reply..

[Joe_Watson]

I think she dont have time to think, because she's always busy in her univeristy..

If she really cared about you, she would find time to think, regardless of how "busy" she is. You make time for the people you care about. That's how it goes. If she doesn't give you a definite answer soon, then you should just forget about her and move on. There's no point wasting time on someone who doesn't even respect you enough to let you know where you stand.

[Harmony]

If she really cared about you, she would find time to think, regardless of how "busy" she is. You make time for the people you care about. That's how it goes. If she doesn't give you a definite answer soon, then you should just forget about her and move on. There's no point wasting time on someone who doesn't even respect you enough to let you know where you stand.

yeah.. I am with you.. but the thing thats making me not to forget her is that she always tells me that she want to marry me in future.. I know that's crazy.. lol..
but she's saying that we should forget our love for four years, and then renew it....

[Joe_Watson]

but she's saying that we should forget our love for four years, and then renew it....

Whoah, what the hell?! She's saying she wants to marry you (probably joking), yet she says she doesn't want to be with you for four years? What sense does that make? You are debating if you are even friends with her and she's talking about marrying you? Man, think about this. Like I said before, if she really cared about you, she would give you an answer and let you know where you stand. But apparently she's content to just lead you on, like she's doing now. This is crazy. Save yourself a lot of trouble and unhappiness and just forget about her completely. End it completely and move on with your life. I know it's hard getting over someone, but the feelings will soon pass and you will meet new people. You deserve better than someone who would treat you like this. Just find someone new and forget about her. I know it's hard, but you gotta do what you gotta do. Stand up for yourself and let her know this treatment is unacceptable.

[Harmony]

Just find someone new and forget about her. I know it's hard, but you gotta do what you gotta do. Stand up for yourself and let her know this treatment is unacceptable.

Hey Joe...
The thing that I want to clear is that the girl wants me... she always says that... but she's under pressure... she doesn't know what to do...
when I didn't contact her for 2 weeks, she was asking her friends about me.. I know that she's lying on herself, and on me... I am saying to myself that if I contacted her less, and act with her as a friend, she may change her mind.. because entirely, i know, that she loves me... but she's not showing that...
did you get my point>????
maybe my heart is talking now.. I don't know...
I hope a reply..

edit: I will see her tomorrow...