My ex and I broke up back in November, the week of Thanksgiving. I had been a mess up to Christmas time, and went out and finally enjoyed a "fling" from New Years Eve to January 8th. I know that this isn't the best way to deal with your heartbreak, but it was nice to keep my mind off my ex, and actually in a few ways showed me different things I was lacking in the relationship with my ex.
I did well for the next few weeks. I wasn't as sad, I wasn't hoping for him back or trying to spy/catch up on him through social networking sites. I even went on a few first dates with two different men (both didn't really go so well). I started having fun and feeling better about being in this town without him by my side and all my friends in a different state.
Then, this past weekend hit me hard. I visited Dallas area with a friend for the weekend, and we stayed with a mutual friend for her birthday. My ex lives in Dallas, and I would spend every Thursday through Monday there with him for the past year of our relationship. The nostalgia hit me HARD being back in the city. Every restaurant we passed brought up another memory of him and our relationship. When running on the Katy Trail, I half-wished I would run into him running along there, as well. At one point there was a tiny part of me that wanted to text or call him up and just say, "Hey, how are you doing? I know we haven't been speaking lately, but I'm in Dallas area and it made me think of you. Hope all is well." (Of course I didn't, because I've been using every ounce of my power to NOT contact him.)
So, long story short, I am back to missing him for the last 3 days. I wish I could just talk to him and see how he's doing. It's not that I necessarily want him back as my boyfriend, but I want him back in my life, I want our friendship back.
Does anyone have any advice on how to move past the effects of this nostalgia and rosy retrospection (looking back on only the GOOD times that we had together, not the bad)? I would really appreciate it!