I know Im late on this. However, I will admit that I have a real short temper. It has been times when I was the aggressor in a relationship or in situations period. It didnt take nothing for me to curse anyone out in stores, school..I just didnt care. Its crazy because I always carry and present my outer apperance well but my inside was real messed up. Even when it came to relationships, Lord dont let me catch my man in a lie or something. I would go to where ever he was and flip. If he wouldnt come outside I would kick his cars until he came. I mean, I would flip out. Thats just bits and pieces.
However, I went through alot of emotional issues growing up and a I really dealt with a lot and I remember I would use it as my reason for flipping out at times but then I came to the conclusion that i was just using it as manipulation, not intentionally but it was easy to play the blame game. So once, I seen my current boyfriend out and I felt like he had sort of pushed me aside that day and sort of ignored me so to speak, but anyway I was already pissed and I seen him at this club and I went to him to hug and kiss all over him and he sort of dismissed me and I remember I was a little wasted but I lost it on him. Like in front of everybody I was pushing him and he was trying to walk away but I was VERY aggressive that they kicked me out. Anyway, he left me for awhile and he was done with me b/c he felt like if I act like that at the beginning it would just get worst. I felt like he was full of it that night but it didnt give me the right to touch him. My point is, I had to make the decision to change my ways and my attitude and it can be pattern, for me it was until I got with someone who wasnt going to tolerate that. So you have to take control of what you allow to happen and if she love you like you love her, she will change and try hard to. Just speaking from experience. I learned that Im not touching anyone b.c I dont want to be touched.