A friend or more....

[TashFrom5]

Right, literally can't believe it has come to this...but I need some advice!

I have spent the last couple of years focussing on my career, so mean have not been a major focus and I have always felt aware of how me felt about me in relationships. However, there is this guy that has made a sneaky little entrance into my heart and I'm just not sure how he feels.

The story:
So I'd been living in London for 8 years...turned 30...had a mid life crisis and decided to make a change, so I quit my job. Prior to this, my mum and her friend tried to set me up with her friend's son [let's call him Richard]. Went to meet to meet Richard and his friends [turns not interested in Richard], but his friend 'Dave' was there. Dave is not my type, nice guy, but thought nothing of it. So when I quit my job i decided to get a hold of Dave [as he was a Business Director at an advertising firm, so wanted to see if he had any jobs] - turns out he had moved back to SA, which I myself was planning to do. Now bearing in mind I had met this guy ONCE, he gave me advice, set me up on interviews etc. and when I moved home, he constantly sent me texts to see how I was doing and if I was coping with the move...anytime I put a remotely negative facebook status update, he would call me and see how I'm doing. Just literally the kindest person I have ever met. He never talks about other girls, except to mention if someone found him attractive...but always says he's not interested. So my gut feel is would a successful 36 year old man really invest this amount of time in some girl, if he wasn't interested?! But then why hasn't he made a move? Should I make the first move...but if he doesn't feel the same way I'll lose a really amazing friend. I am fully aware of how girly and pathetic this may seem, but I don't fall easily and I don't want to mess this up! Help.....

[smackie9]

First off you can't expect strangers to have a crystal ball to look at and know if he has an invested interest in you. The only way you can find out is spend time with him. Just take him out for dinner and say you want to show your appreciation for all that he has done. Then just let things progress naturally. He may follow up with a nice message, and later ask you out. Guys don't generally have the confidence to just ask someone out they hardly know. Most like a signal of some kind....so inviting him for dinner would be a nice start.