Moving in together

[gentledav]

Hi im not sure if this is the proper part of the forum,but ill try my best.Ive been going with my girlfriend for over 4yrs in which we've had our ups and downs,but we are both together and looking to further our relationship which i want with her more than anything,we both suffer from mental health issues,very similar,we both find it difficult to go out on our own and do normal day to day things,but when we are together we can do things cause we have each other.Theres only one most important part,ive told her for the past year or so that i would move into a house together,and start a life away from everyone,as theres been so many ppl interfering.Now my girlfriend whom i am engaged to,has gave me option of living without her,and living with the regret of not trying,or moving out of my parents house and be together in a new place,today in the morning,shes gave me 1 week to make the effort of moving out,or shes going to move far away and never see me again I love her with all my heart,i feel theres a huge brick wall in front of me and i cant seem to get through it,to the other side,because of my mental health problem the thought of moving out and leaving here causes me to fill up with complete fear,and i go off the idea of moving out,but i know now that my girl will no longer be there for me,if i dont make this move in life,in which i truely and honestly want too,i know we'd be happy together,cause i treated her to a night out on friday,and we both loved it.Im just so confussed to why i cant kick myself up the backside and grow up and just make this step not just for myself,but for the benefits for our relationship in the long run.
Any help or advice would be much appreciated

Thank you

[surfhb2]

I don't get it? Been dating for 4 years, engaged and you don't want to move out with her? Fear of what? Got to be a big boy sometime

[gentledav]

I guess the fear of change is what im scared of,as just now theres no other life i know,than the life i have at home with my parents,the last thing i want is to lose her.

[surfhb2]

I guess the fear of change is what im scared of,as just now theres no other life i know,than the life i have at home with my parents,the last thing i want is to lose her.

Everything step you take in life is a risk. I hate change too and it's scary at first but once you move on you look back and see how silly it was to fear. Really....what's the risk? If your relationship doesn't work out ( god forbid) you can always move back home

[ashley89]

the bigger issue here is how dependent you two are on each other... you say you can't go out and do day to day things without each other? that's not good... what happens if you break up? or God forbid something happens to one of you? it's normal to depend upon each other for certain things in a relationship but to be to that level where it's basically as if you can't breathe without the other one... a little scary. do you both go to a therapist or are you on medication for these mental issues?