In need of advice

[Lover6789]

My husband and I have been married for almost 4 years and together 6 years. I dated this guy in high school right before I started dating my husband. The guy before my husband was awesome, we got along perfect! Downfall was he worked late hours and with me still being in school we saw each at night, and he was heavy into weed. I am not nor have I ever even tried it so I didn't like that. My mom started getting into my head about how she thought he was cheating on me. I didn't let her get to me at first but then I decided it was best if we went our own ways. I jumped right into a relationship with my now husband. We had our issues. He slept with my best friend while I was in the other room, we broke up. We then got back together soon after and he joined the military. We decided to get married right away. We now have a child together and we are always fighting! It never stops. Well since all this my ex has gotten ahold of me and I just feel like I was making everyone else happy but myself and now here I am unhappy and I don't even get along with my husband...help!!

[Wakeup]

Have you spoken to your husband so that he can maybe help you be more happy or did you just come here first without letting him know about your disatisfaction?
What does the awesome weed smokin ex have to do with all this?
Why did you get back with your husband after he slept with your friend if he doesn't make you happy?
Why didn't you break up with him then and there?
Why don't you and you're husband "get along?" What is the cause of all this not getting along?

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[Lover6789]

I have talked to my husband about not being happy and he just tells me he is sorry and goes on with life and we get along for about a day and its right back to fighting. We have no respect for each other at all. He calls me names and I do the same. We have not had sex in 17 months. I can't stand my husband at all. He doesn't listen to me when I am trying to tell him what's wrong. He cheated on me and I wanted him back so bad at the time he was the first guy I lived with and all that. I got him back and he asked me to marry him and I said yes. 3 weeks later we were married it all was just so fast I didn't really have time to think about it. The ex is someone I would want to be with. He treated me great while together and really loves me. Cares about my feelings and we just click together. My husband and I have a on going power struggle and he doesn't want to see the issues in our relationship he doesn't let me talk about him cheating on me he says its in the past its done

[Wakeup]

He treated me great while together and really loves me. Cares about my feelings and we just click together

Are you having an affair with this boy? If you're not, how do you know he "really loves you?" What about his weed habit. You don't like weed so why do you think a relationship with him would work well?

Why not leave your husband if you're that unhappy with him?
Why would you have a child with a man that you dislike so much?

Sorry, maybe it's just me but, You're not making very much sense.

[Boisdevie]

Sorry, maybe it's just me but, You're not making very much sense.

That might be because she's really stupid. She went ahead and married a man who wasn't exactly mister right and then has a kid. Nice way to bugger up your life. I doubt, given the stupid decisions she's made that any advice we give would be of any use.

[Lover6789]

I agree with you that I really messed things up. When my husband cheated on me with my friend he swore that it was because he fell in love with her little boy. He deployed and I found out he was talking to another ex. He told he loved her and wonder what if he wouldn't have gotten back with me everyday. I didn't dislike my husband this much when we got married. It's all the hurt he has done up to this point that made me dislike him. I'm not an idiot I knew a child wouldn't fix it but when he got home from deployment things were perfect again and along came my child. He doesn't smoke weed anymore and really has turned his life around. I was just putting him into the mix because if I am having feelings for someone else like that is it something that just passes or am I truly that unhappy with my husband. There is a lot more to the story with my husband that I didn't write and I don't explain things well