Plz help! He is too unattentive

[jasmin2012]

HI, i have a boyfriend with whom I have been together for over 2.5 years. We were groupmates in the university, and he fell in love with me during those years. From the very first days of our relationship, he was writing me every 2-3 days (not everyday). I was surprised why he was not writing me everyday...
Then we intensified our relationship and started dating every weekend (as we both were working and could meet only on weekend). His work regime was extremely tough and was leaving job at 11-12 PM everyday and thats why he was calling once a day. I was always complaining about it. Because I was missing him and needed to hear his voice at least 3 times a day. I needed his attention... 1 year passed (during this 1 year we frequently had problems because of his inattentiveness). And then we went for master degree to different countries (for a year). I thought he would miss me more because we were apart.. We could only meet every 4 months..I was missing him.. For the first 3 monthes we were talking on skype everyday...but once his exams started, we even started skyping every 2-3 weeks... It was sooo ****ing bad.. Bcoz I though he did not miss me and did not need to talk to me. this time he told me that he had a lot of courses to study and he cant manage to skype with me. But i dont think this should be a reason! If a person wants he can do it in whichever way. I also had many courses,but i did find time to skype with him, bcoz i was missing and wanted to hear his voice and see him visually. Then we started fighting almost every 3-4 days because of his lack of time and attention to me. I was fighting that he could find time if he loved me, but he told the reverse and told that he loved me lot and skyping, messaging is not an indicator of love..
But one note: I know that he is a panic man!! He is always under pressure and always worried/also inefficient/unconcentrated. He is always worried that if he cant manage to complete the task assigned to him/or fails exams it will be a tragedy for him. He is not a psychologically strong man. He is always complaining, and worried. He is soo deep into the job/university courses that he even may neglect me. But actually I do believe that he cannot do without me and he doesnt want to lose me! After I came back to my home country (to my family) I dared to say him that I want to break up because I dont believe and trust him anymore. And he insisted that he won't break up! After he came back from master study he insisted me to meet and talk with him. And we met.. After he looked into my eyes, and saw me breaking up, he started crying over and over and he told he cannot live without me and he was crying by heart... I am more than sure that he did not want to break up...Because i felt he loved me. He insisted and then we made up...ANd then after 2 monthes we got engaged. And now 3 monthes passed from engagement and he still works in the same company and still complains about lacking time to meet with me. He even sometimes goes to work on weekends and even weekends we cannot meet ... It hurts me again.. I dont know what to do. I know he doesnt want to break up but he doesnt miss me bcoz he is always under pressure and deep into his job...when i complain abt this, he always says he tries his best to make money for our future...But i am not satisfied with this explanation.. I still expect him to miss me and find somehow time for me (at least once a week). Plz advise what I should do. Should I trust him? Or is he bored of me?

[basilandthyme]

Jasmin, how long are you going to be at his beck and call for? You've already wasted 2.5 years with a guy who's never met your needs - how much longer will you waste?

Why do you believe that he can't be without you when he's obviously managing perfectly fine without contacting you? And why do you care whether or not he wants to break up - if you're not happy, then you end things no matter what he thinks.

It's time for you to give yourself a kick up the rear end.

[basilandthyme]

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