Should she be alone?

[whatname]

There is this one girl that i like in college, i've narrowed out all possibilities, and the only way i can possibly asking her out it seems is as a stranger, while approaching her, today when the lecture class of 60 was dismissed i followed her for a few feet, ( batman like detective skills) and she leaves the class while talking to 2 girls, 1 of them leaves, she is left with 1, but then i decided to stop and head for my next class.

The question is, should i ask her out after class even if she is with someone else? I really find it awkward and i see my chances to be successful diminish if there is a girl with her..

And believe me i cant ask her out before class either, i dont know where she is or goes...

And the only way i can see if the other girl leaves is if i follow her closely enough to see if they depart, and THEN ask her, but then it will seem like im stalking her...

You might say, hey you r overthinking it, but id think about this, if shed ask me out..lol.

I also want to be patient until i know what the factors r, whether she is surrounded by others, where she goes, etc.. Im finding it difficult to think of me asking her out with someone else walking with her..

[ashley89]

have you talked to this girl before?

[rob1984]

before class stop her, and say i need to talk to you after this lecture alone. that will give her time to think about you during class and what you possibly want.. and you can think about how you will ask her., and you'll have to since she is expecting you to talk to her after. Then you tell her " i think you are interesting and am intrigued by you, I want to have a coffee ( or whatever ) and see what else there is about you "

[whatname]

have you talked to this girl before?

I havent, there is no way to do so.

It is a lecture class with more than 60 people in them, where i met her. She sits 60 feet away from me, and i can't approach her because of strict seating charts. The class meets twice a week for 50 mins a day, and i have no way of seeing her before class starts either.

So the only way to ask her out is as a stranger, after class, and that is why i have to do it as well as possible, because it in it self starts as a lower than average probability of working out..

My plan to ask her out is to let her think about it, not put her in the spot, maybe give her my email and compliment her, if shes interested she contacts ME, and if not, then its forgotten.

But i see someone else being with her @ the moment of asking her out as detrimental to my chances...

[rob1984]

how about this.. kinda cheesy but fun i dunno, get a buddy to give her your email, and say someone in this class likes you lol.. see if she replies.

middle school style....ha

[whatname]

Hey, that sounds interesting...hm...but maybe the fact of meeting up with someone she has never seen, unsettle her?

Interesting idea..

[rob1984]

its different because you are in her class, you talk for a while through email.. make this fun for her.. make her excited to check her email, to see what you got to say ect.. so if she likes you.. at least its your personality before looks first. who knows.. in your note make it fun.. tell her to email you, as you are her crush.. and she can ask you anything you want except who he is until a certain date or whatever.. be a little cheesy lol

[whatname]

I will think about it, the class meets up so little that i dont even know anyone in there, we all just show up and take notes...But if i do, do this, perhaps i could entertain her with messages ( if she does accept to even email) and then one day send her my facebook, and then after knowing how i look, look for me, and make it fun...although simply asking her out, saves me from the whole process, but this might even give me more of a chance from a certain perspective..

[michelle23]

You could drop a note into her hand saying "would you like to go for coffee" and your number

[rob1984]

do you always use the same desks ? if so leave a note.. and then another note and keep going..i dunno if i were in your situation id be creative as hell.

[whatname]

Lol, we do use the same desks but before our class theres like 100 people in that lecture and then every one of us rushes in when its our turn, so if i leave something there, then the whole world will know...

@ michelle, it could work, it would have to be very cute though..

So ya its the same desks but the putting of the note is difficult in that multiple people would know about me leaving it.. she might push it away for all that i know..its a huge class...not even desks..just sitting stations with a table