Need honest answers on whether qualities I have are turnoff or attractive......Thanks

[iamaninnocentma]

Hm, you sure do seem fixated on men and, implicitly, "bums"... Latent homo, or should I rather say, BLATANT homo? Owned.

When talking with a fag, what else can you talk about? Womens shoes? HIA was right about you. You are a little boy, whos never had his hole. Maybe if you wernt so retarded, one of these obese white trailer trash might pump you. Its worth thinking about. Go ask your neighbour.

[Love'sReject]

When talking with a fag, what else can you talk about? Womens shoes? HIA was right about you. You are a little boy, whos never had his hole. Maybe if you wernt so retarded, one of these obese white trailer trash might pump you. Its worth thinking about. Go ask your neighbour.

LOL, my neighbor is hot chick so I'd gladly take your advice except who's pumping who would be reversed..

Lol u mad I'm not gay? U sad.

[iamaninnocentma]

LOL, my neighbor is hot chick so I'd gladly take your advice except who's pumping who would be reversed..

Lol u mad I'm not gay? U sad.

hahaha. Content yourself with spying on her with your telescope, ya dirty old sex pest. Gay, virgin, its all the same if you arnt getting any pussy.

[Love'sReject]

hahaha. Content yourself with spying on her with your telescope, ya dirty old sex pest. Gay, virgin, its all the same if you arnt getting any pussy.

Nah, I just check her out when she's walking to her car, walking the dogs or a plethora of reasons why she would be outside. And I am willing to bet you aren't getting any, either.

[iamaninnocentma]

Nah, I just check her out when she's walking to her car, walking the dogs or a plethora of reasons why she would be outside. And I am willing to bet you aren't getting any, either.

Well you would lose pedro. Ive just bought myself a bosnian bride for 500 euros. She can barely speak a word of english, but she makes a great casserole. You should try it, the casserole i mean, because i doubt even money would convince anyone to pump you.

[Love'sReject]

Well you would lose pedro. Ive just bought myself a bosnian bride for 500 euros. She can barely speak a word of english, but she makes a great casserole. You should try it, the casserole i mean, because i doubt even money would convince anyone to pump you.

Cool story, bro.

[IndiReloaded]

LR and imma turned this boring thread to. Awesome. thank you.

[actualgoodguy]

Thanks for all the feedback everyone,

So I finally went on my first date last weekend. I really like her and I think she likes me too. I walked her to her car and we hugged before leaving (she hugged me pretty tight so I took that as a good sign) and she told me she wanted to keep in touch and made sure I had her number (even though we had already talked on the phone twice earlier). She even texted me a few hours later telling me what a nice time she had and by the end of the night we each said we would like to see each other the next weekend. We'll probably be going to the movies and dinner. I've never dated before though and don't know how slow/fast to do things to show her I like her (like meaning as more than just a friend). I was thinking of maybe trying to hold her hand or give her a goodnight kiss on the cheek at the end of the next date. BTW we're both really shy. Assuming the second date goes just as well as the first, do you think these things are alright to do on a second date or should I wait until a later time?

Thanks and happy new year

[smackie9]

Kiss her on the lips!

[staticline]

To the OP, it sounds like you've got a lot going for you in the main; you seem to have a mature and hard-working approach to life, you've attained a high level of education and looked after your finances.. basically you sound responsible and disciplined, and have wholesome interests. I don't think there are many women who wouldn't find those attributes attractive.. especially given that in this age range, immaturity and lack of willingness to commit are typical gripes women hold about their partners or prospective partners. There are some things which could really work against you, though. As many others have commented, your attitude about sexually active women ("used goods") irks me. Personally I can't get behind abstinence until marriage, but if that's the choice you've made for yourself there's nothing wrong with that. Different strokes for different folks. Perhaps you need to examine your attitudes and motivations surrounding this, though, this type of legalistic thinking comes off as judgemental at best, narcissistic and misogynistic at worst. Another thing that strikes me is that your unwillingness to drink might make you a bit of a boring prospect for a date. Don't get me wrong, it's far from appealing when a man drinks to excess, but complete abstinence kind of cuts you off from a lot of social activities that people generally enjoy. I'm really not much of a social animal compared to most women my age, but even I sometimes struggle with boyfriend's decision to largely refrain from alcohol from a couple of years into the relationship. Sometimes I would really like to go to a club or bar or something, even if just for a quiet drink, or to celebrate a special occasion.. not all the time, but it makes me feel more connected to the world, but since he doesn't like to drink he usually can't see a point in going along at all.. we spent New Years eve this year watching a film, like any other night. It's not a huge deal, anyway, since we've been together 4 years and we're in our mid/late 20s now. If he'd had the same habits when we met in our early 20s, though, doubtless I'd have considered it a huge compromise that I couldn't socialise with my partner in all the regular ways. If you have strong opinions about abstaining from alcohol then fair enough, you have to live according to your values.. but I'd advise you to be willing to attend "drinking" occasions all the same.

[chenderson325]

I think you have to consider the difference in culture of some who have replied to you. I don't think they realize how conservative and straight-laced it's perfectly ok to be in many US communities. (And I am much the opposite myself, so I'm not saying that's the right way to be, or not.) It doesn't seem to me that you should have a hard time finding a young woman who has the same expectations as you do. If you don't hold her hand or kiss her goodnight, I would bet she'd begin to wonder if you were attracted to her, though. You should have an open conversation with any woman you date fairly early about your feelings regarding sex before marriage. I think there are many women who would find a virgin husband appealing. If she's a virgin too, or inexperienced, she's not going to know whether you are "good" or not. And, finally, there are advantages to having an inexperienced partner and "training" them to what you like

Don't worry about whether you're ok or not. You are what you are, and you feel how you feel. One day you'll find a compatible person. You just might have to wait and look a bit. But that's better than wasting your time in relationships with people who aren't right for you.

[actualgoodguy]

Hi everyone,

I'd like to hear people's honest answers on a question I have. After how many dates/time spent with each other can you pop the question to your girlfriend on her sexual history? As you can see from previous posts I am waiting until marriage for sex and I also want a girl with the same morals. I don't want to be mean, rude, etc. when asking but it is something I need to know. I don't want to get too deep into a relationship and then find out she's had sex and have to end it even though I might like her. I would rather get it out upfront before we each begin to REALLY like each other.

I appreciate all answers. Thanks.

[surfhb2]

Hi everyone,

I'd like to hear people's honest answers on a question I have. After how many dates/time spent with each other can you pop the question to your girlfriend on her sexual history? As you can see from previous posts I am waiting until marriage for sex and I also want a girl with the same morals. I don't want to be mean, rude, etc. when asking but it is something I need to know. I don't want to get too deep into a relationship and then find out she's had sex and have to end it even though I might like her. I would rather get it out upfront before we each begin to REALLY like each other.

I appreciate all answers. Thanks.

With an attitude so far out of wack I'd be surprised if you will ever have a lasting relationship. People have sex....deal with it.

Go to a church bible study if you need to find a Virgin....that's the place I know of. Generally, people who save sex for marriage do it for religious reasons

There's nothing immoral about sex before marriage so the first thing you should do is get that idea out of your head.

Furthermore, you just had your first date less than a month ago? I don't get it? You plane on dumping this girl if she says she had sex? Lol

Your biggest barrier is yourself.....most adult woman have sex and are looking for a partner whos had sex so you're automatically blowing yourself out of the H2O right off the bat

[actualgoodguy]

Hi everyone, sorry for the length, but whoever reads the whole thing, it's appreciated.

So we talked about our beliefs regarding sex. She obviously already knew about me never having had a gf or sex, but I also told her that I was waiting until marriage. She admitted to having sex once in high school at age 18 (btw we're both 23). Obviously that hurt but she also has no idea that what she admitted is a deal breaker for me. I don't think I should tell her the truth about my beliefs because that would probably make her feel horrible. So should I just slowly start to faze out our relationship or just be brutally honest and tell her the truth?

Also, I know I've gotten a lot of ridicule on my beliefs regarding sex and that's fine, but why is it so wrong to think the way I think? I know it's extremely difficult to find people who think like me today and I've already accepted the fact that I may very well end up alone for the rest of my life. Believe me there's many times that I would love to be just a regular 23 year old guy for a night, but I know I'll regret it the next day. I also know that if I were to have sex or have a drink, it wouldn't change me as a person. But I'll admit that I try to be perfect in everything I do (even though I know it's not possible) but then again there's no harm in at least trying to attain it. And since I can control staying a virgin and choosing a partner who's also a virgin, why not at least attempt trying to make that happen. If it doesn't work, then tough luck, but if it does, well then, I think it would be worth the wait.

I also absolutely hate the excuse people make about having to have sex before marriage. You know the one that goes "well you wouldn't buy a car without going on a test drive first, would you?" That's so lame and sad, I mean we're married, we love each other, I don't see how we would not be sexually compatible. Even if the first time sucks or the second, third, fifth, tenth, seventeenth, ninety-ninth...though I think by then we would be ok haha...it doesn't matter, we would eventually learn what's good and what's not. It's not like we have a time limit to get it correct by, if it takes a month or two to finally have awesome sex, so be it, we still have years and years of great sex ahead and what makes it even better is knowing that we waited for each other, learned it together and have no regrets about our past.

Thanks

[smackie9]

That's not the reason why I didn't wait before marriage......I wanted to have sex because I desired to have it and wanted to enjoy it......like most people.