only 3 months in and I'm already concerned.

[limegreen]

I've been dating my boyfriend for about 3 months. He has a 9 year old daughter from a previous relationship. He is a truck driver so he's only home a couple times a month. Naturally he wants to talk on the phone every day. So do I, the only problem is we never have anything to talk about. I'll try to initiate a conversation and he'll give me one word answers. Normal people would reply with SOMETHING to keep the conversation going. I could say wow the weather here is so bad today you're lucky you're in California, and he'll say okay. Or something like that. When ive confronted him about it he has said you made a statement you didn't ask me a question what do you want me to say? I call him in the morning, on my lunch, and after work. But with our conversations lacking conversation I tell him I'm just gonna go get other stuff done, like make my lunch for the next day or lay out my clothes. And hell get mad at me saying I don't wanna talk to him. Hes impossible to talk to! Ill talk and he wont say anything and ill ask if hes there and he says hes listening
It takes two people to have a conversation. Another thing is his daughter will make fun of things I say, and hell laugh at her. So then its both of them making fun of what I'm saying. Hes always saying nice things to her and wants her to cuddle with him and obviously I understand that. I like that they have such a good relationship. But he never says anything nice to me. We already don't have any alone time as it is, and like I said I understand that, hes gone all the time and obviously hell wanna spend his time with his daughter when he comes home but there's no romance at all in our relationship. This valentines day will be our first one and he says he doesnt do valentines day. Ya know whatever but nothing for even the first time? Last night we were all watching a movie and his daughter wanted to sit with her aunt this time and he didn't even ask me to sit with him. I did anyway and kinda leaned on him and he didn't reciprocate at all. So I just went on the floor. It just seems like he puts all of his effort into making his daughter happy and no effort into anything with me. His daughter is gonna love him no matter what. I just wanna have a part of it. It seems like he was more romantic when we first started dating. Did i annoy him? Is this just like what it is when there's kids around? Do I have a reason to be upset or am I just being selfish? I don't know if I should continue the relationship.

[limegreen]

He got home late Friday night so he didn't get to pick his daughter up so we went out. He saw a group of girls that he knew from high school and he went over to talk to him and left me by the dj whom he also knew for like 20 minutes. Didn't invite me over to introduce me at all.

[basilandthyme]

It's only three months. You rarely see him and he's not meeting your needs. Why are you still with him? (no, this isn't a rhetorical question - seriously, why are you still with him)

[limegreen]

I just wanna make sure my expectations of him aren't too high.

[basilandthyme]

I just wanna make sure my expectations of him aren't too high.

No, your expectations aren't too high. Frankly, moving on from this relationship should be a no-brainer for you.

I do have to enquire why you're doubting yourself over this. Do you not trust your own decision making?

[VincenzoG91]

They are laughing because they found a free babysitter. Not sure how you tricked yourself into calling this a relationship.

[limegreen]

He has expressed concern since we started dating about his job pushing me away. It's not his job pushing me away though, I can handle being without him. I just don't feel loved. I feel like a friend that hangs out with him and his daughter. Definitely not a babysitter, though.

[VincenzoG91]

At just three months into a relationship, you're still getting to know each other. If you're seeing major red flags this early, you should consider breaking up and moving on.

[basilandthyme]

He has expressed concern since we started dating about his job pushing me away. It's not his job pushing me away though, I can handle being without him. I just don't feel loved.

That and the fact that he's boring as sh1t when you talk with him