Gift from ex boyfriend?

[Katrina26]

Hi guys. My ex got me a dolphin bracelet for valentines. Dolphins represent friendship. At the beginning he got me a teddy bear and i told him it was to romantic given the situation. He already had bought it before he broke up with me. And I also had bought his gift which i already gave it to him. I told him he didnt have to give me anything but he said it wasn't fair for me to spend my money without getting anything back and that he wanted to get me something. Should i accept it?

[smackie9]

What is the harm? Do you think he is trying to get back with you? And if you were over, then why did you give him something? So what if you had bought it, there really was no reason to, unless you were hoping for him to come back to you.

Me personally would be asking him some questions as to why he is doing any of this. There is no need if you are split up. I don't buy the "Oh I got it for you before we broke up, so here it is." So what's the deal?

[bearz]

Even after everything that happened and what was said he still wants you to have it, so you should accept it and keep it. Even if it's just as a piece of memory.

[pcmaster]

Easy take it. Not a diamond ring or anything, just a friendly stuff. Its very nice I think to be able to stay friends.

[Rowen]

Accept it, but if he starts talking about getting back together, then you need to give it back. I say this because the past is the past. You two need to move on and have clear definitions of where the boundaries are.

I only say this because a friend of mine once had this problem with her boyfriend of five years. He dumped her and kept buying her things afterward, even when he dated someone else, as a way of "showing he still loved her." In the end, it was torturous to her and hurt her in the long run because he couldn't decide what he wanted. You can accept it, but you have make him accept that it's over if he tries coming back.

Good luck.

[Katrina26]

Accept it, but if he starts talking about getting back together, then you need to give it back. I say this because the past is the past. You two need to move on and have clear definitions of where the boundaries are.

I only say this because a friend of mine once had this problem with her boyfriend of five years. He dumped her and kept buying her things afterward, even when he dated someone else, as a way of "showing he still loved her." In the end, it was torturous to her and hurt her in the long run because he couldn't decide what he wanted. You can accept it, but you have make him accept that it's over if he tries coming back.

Good luck.

Got to love your opinion guys. Im 100% sure he doesn't want to get back with me he said it. He wants to have a civil relationship since we are co workers. This will be the last gift exchange for sure.

[bearz]

Let's hope you are right and he is honest with you. If you can stay friends and put things behind you, kudos to you.