Hi,
I broke up with my girlfriend at the start of January. Well she broke up with me. I tried to get her back, she said she needed time. Since then she's messed me about a bit. We've had a couple of days like old times where we've just been kissing and holding each other. I've been through a lot and I think I neglected her a bit but I needed her more than ever and she walked away. She says she still loves and she wants to be there for me but I feel like our time together meant nothing to us because of the way she has behaved since returning to Uni.
She's never been one to go out much, but since returning she's been out 7 or 8 times in 3 weeks and shows no sign of slowing down. I've cut all contact with her because the confusion about whether she wanted me back or not was tearing me apart, she said she was sad but understood. I haven't heard from her for about a week and I wanted to get a women's perspective on what might be going on.
I'm worried that maybe she's over me and is trying to find someone else, which would really hurt because I'm not even close to being over her.
On the other hand is she just going out so much because she can't stop thinking about me? In which case why is she putting herself through this?
Or is she just trying to get over me and trying to distract herself?
Or could it be that this is just what she wanted, she's only 21 after all - I just don't understand why she wouldn't just tell me that.
We promised each other that we wouldn't see other people until Easter why we tried to sort out what we both wanted - but she said she wanted to concentrate on her Uni work - not party 3 times a week. I want to trust her but I feel she might be breaking her promise which I know I have no right to hold her to, but it still hurts.
I'm so confused because she said she loves me and misses me but it doesn't feel like that.