Me and my partner have been going out for almost 6 years now. We started off in a long distance relationship until around September last year. We have had a lot of rough patches. We've had 2 major breakups - one in which he broke up with me for someone else (we were both very young and silly), I forgave him and we moved on from it. Then our second break up, he broke up with me due to distance, then tried to get with a friend of his. I stupidly forgave him yet again but at the time it seemed the right thing to do.
After we got back together, for a few months things were so perfect, I was the happiest I've ever been. However, it started to go down hill when he dropped out of college. Ever since then he has completely lacked motivation, he'd say what his plans were e.g joining the army, finding a job, but never fulfilled them and gave up on the idea within weeks! We've been together almost 6 years and he has never met any of my family or friends, but I have met his. He has only been to see me ONCE - mind you I moved 200 miles away from home to go to a university that's closer to him so we could see each other more, and he has only seen me once. I've been to see him countless times.
The worst thing is his laziness. Whenever I try to confront him and tell him he needs to make more of an effort to see me and be a better boyfriend, he uses money as an excuse. He's 20 and lives with his mother, although he has bills to pay it's not a lot and I'm a full time student scraping by and still save up to go see him when I can. I'd be a little more understanding if he didn't spend £100 or so on computer games and expensive junk food every other week. Just an example of just how inconsiderate he is: It was my 21st birthday a few days ago, a special birthday and my first one ever away from home. I didn't even receive a birthday card from him - nothing, nada. Not even a visit. Apparently the reason was because he had no money yet a few nights ago he'd spent around £30 on Dominos pizza! That really hurt my feelings because I've sacrificed a lot of things to be able to see him and £30 is only a fraction of the cost it would take him to see me!
I do believe I want to break the relationship off. I love him but I've been unhappy for a very long time, even discussing it with him multiple times has changed nothing. He still makes zero effort and I think he's just getting too comfortable with our relationship that he just doesn't bother anymore. Does this sound like a redundant relationship or should I still even bother try?