Originally Posted by
searock
Just because it didn't work out for you doesn't mean it's a general rule. I was best friends with my current boyfriend for about 2 years before we started going out, and now we have an amazing relationship, because of our deep connection before we even started dating.
I also have a couple male friends and I am 100% not attracted to them, nor are they attracted to me. That's the one rule for male-female friendships: you can't be FRIENDS with someone if you're attracted to them. There are several guys whom I *could* be friends with, IF they weren't attracted to me, but they are, so I don't even try to be friends with them because it would only hurt them. Same thing goes for me: I don't try to make friends with guys I'm attracted to.
With my bf it was different: I wasn't attracted to him when I first met him (that's how we were able to become friends), I developed feelings for him only after I'd known him for a few months. Developing feelings for a friend of the sex you are attracted to can happen, but it definitely doesn't always happen.
Here are some things you can check to determine whether your friendship with a guy is actually friendship, or if it's something different:
1. You go on dinner dates with him.
2. You go to their house (or have them come over to your house) alone.
3. He sometimes pays stuff for you.
4. You often stay up late chatting/texting with him at night.
5. You hug, cuddle, kiss on the cheeks, etc... any form of physical contact.
6. He brings you random presents "just because", or he gives you huge presents when it's your birthday or whatever.
7. If either or both of you are taken, you feel uncomfortable meeting him with you bf (or his gf, or both).
8. You communicate every single day (even if only via texts, chat, etc).
These^ are all signs that you two aren't "just friends".