Age Old Question--need and want all the opinions I can get!

[Ellecee3]

I was in a very serious relationship for 4 years. We broke up and took some time apart to cool off. However we always find a way back to each other and try to be civil and friends but the age old question--- can exes who truly loved each other for so long really be just friends? Part of me wants to be mature and adult enough to be friends and I do care for him as a person and don't want to see him out of my life but part of me wonders if exes can truly be just friends?! What are your opinions?? If you think they can be just friends, what needs to happen in order for this to be successful and if you don't think they can, why not?

This has been ruling my life for the last 9 months and enough is enough! Please help

Any/All opinions welcomed

[Boisdevie]

don't want to see him out of my life

Why should it matter. Don't you have friends? What's so important that you keep on seeing him?
I got dumped last year. Apart from briefly handing over stuff I haven't seen here since - no contact whatsoever. Because:
1. It's over and
2. I don't need more 'friends'

Get over it and move on.

[michelle23]

I wouldn't recommend staying friends with an ex. It makes it harder to move on with your life and any new man you meet-will hate the fact that your close to an ex..