Having doubts after 1 month LDR

[Kromat83]

AFTER 1 MONTH LONG-DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP.
Love is a strange thing, you could be meant for each other,
but circumstances arise, that you can't control.

I am still planning to visit Poland, as i will be attending a close relatives wedding
in July, but it's what my current girlfriend told me, about how much time we would spend.

She just wants to see each other for 1 week in August, after being apart for 6 months,
because she's currently living at her parents, and i would be their guest.
** i wanted to spend my birthday (July 28) with her

i would be willing to find a place close to where she lives for her work, but she
also says that she would probably be busy, and that might not be an option.

When she was working in Canada with my mom, i was seeing her after work once or twice a week.

I need to be in a current mindset from what i have been hearing, of this not working out
in the long run, so i can focus on improving my life here, and just go with things day by day.

I still have feelings for her, and so does she, but not sure she wants it as bad
as me, and yes i know that she would have to leave her environment.

I wont have to move, and keeps saying that she wont survive here in Canada.
From what she has been telling me, the work situation isn't so great over there.

I could help her, but she still probably doesn't trust me completely, even though I have
improved myself a lot, and willing to do anything for her, so that we're both happy.

I am not sure how things will be, after my stay with her and we have to part ways again.

I want to stay positive, but maybe this was just something to experience,
and just move on with my life, when the time comes where there is an end.

If that happens, i will have fond memories, and know
that i tried my best, and it was mutual, and not something
that i did wrong, but cause of our distance, and the unknown.

P.S. you guys are right, and i was wrong to think that my LDR will work.
There might be a possibility, where it could, but I am very doubtful at the moment.

[HeartIsAching]

Sounds to me as if she's already pushing you away. You're going to travel thousands of miles to see her, and she won't give you more than a week? She won't consider seeing you on your birthday?

Time to move on, man. Sorry 'bout that.

[Kromat83]

well, my relatives wanted to see me for the longest time, so at least it wont be so bad.

I will most likely spend around 3-4 weeks with them, and maybe 1-2 weeks with her.

Ya, guess February 1st where she said she wont be coming back, was the first sign,
and now these things are happening, so maybe it wasn't meant to be as i thought.

[ashley89]

remember when you 1st made your thread about starting this relationship and everyone said this kind of stuff might happen? it looks like everyone was right :\ LDRs hardly work out with this type of distance, it just becomes too difficult and usually one person loses interest.

[Boisdevie]

Sorry. But don't say we didn't warn you.

[Kromat83]

Ya, maybe i was being too optimistic, reality set in,
that i need to just worry about what i have here.

Relationships can come and go, but my career is what
i will be doing, for the rest of my life, and want to start that.

[michelle23]

Go with the flow Kromat. You may need to accept it was just a holiday fling at some point so don't allow yourself to fall head over heels. If it doesnt work out-you can meet someone local

Best of luck to you

[Kromat83]

Yep, maybe it was just a fling, but it was good while it lasted.

I am slowly starting to except the fact, life needs to go on.

I have enough things on my mind to worry about, and being
proud of what i will achieve when things start falling into place.