What do you think?

[Vonmiller]

Sorry I had another past post about this but wanted to clarify things a bit more. This girl and I have dated in the past( 3 years ago) we had sex too soon so she lost the connection after only dating 2 months. We recently starting talking, and hanging out again( last month) she contacted me through a mutual friend. We both suffer from being insecure, depression, and anxiety. I don't understand why she does because she is really beautiful and great body but anyways. We got along well, comfortable with each other has gotten physical. She had a rough breakup 2 months prior where she dated a guy with a daughter and fell in love. Her feelings made me insecure about ours and I felt like I need reassurance and probably came off as clingy because of it and I'm not normally like that. Just really wanted it to work out. Saw her as my future. I think we should have focused more on having fun with one another than where our feelings were at and our issues. She also has abandonment issues. She told me if was hard for her to get close to somebody because she can't handle being left.
So right now I wrote her an email a few days ago about how I felt. I told her she wasn't over him and that maybe she couldn't get closer to me because she was emotionally unavailable. So I want to know because of all these issues she has with not wanting to get close and everything else, should we just be friends and me be there for her and have our friendship be the foundation for a relationship later? Otherwise, she has a dog she is co-dependent on. MY sister went to school for Art and she does wicked dog portraits with painting as the medium. I was thinking making one last grand gesture to show her how much I care and then tell her maybe down the road? I want her to know how special she is to me. I know she has feelings for me too. It's been rough not seeing her and talking to her everyday like we were use to. All I do is think about her and beat myself up about me being the reason she wants to be friends.

[michelle23]

You cant fix or save or change this girl. She needs to do all that on her own. I think you need to accept shes not ready and move on with your life. There is no point being her friend in the hope that "someday shell want me". You are just putting your life on hold for her. Don't ever do that for anyone.

Get over her and meet someone who is not "emotionally unavailable or insecure"