It's been a while... I'm still not over her.

[TrapezeSwinger]

I dated my ex for a year, we were EXTREMELY close. She moved two months into the relationship, we continued dating but just before our one year, the long distance (900 miles) just got to be too hard. I only saw her 3 or 4 times after she moved. The break up was just impulse, I don't know what I was thinking. I've had girlfriends since then, but continued to think about her. I know she's dating a guy and they've been together for a while, so I can't really talk to her. It's been over a year and a half since we last talked, and I think about her everyday. How can I stop thinking about her?

thanks.

[srami83]

Sounds like you're thinking about what could have been. Did you have a recent fall out with another girl? When I've broken up with boyfriends in the past I would think about exs before. I even pursued one. I ended it because he was emotionally unavailable. I thought 2 years later it would be different. We stopped being friends cuz of the same issues. What im saying is you can't dwell on the past. You made a decision and that's it. If you want to say hi and see how she's doing, maybe you guys could be friends but I wouldn't call her and expect to get back together esp. Since you know she is dating another. And who knows maybe after a friendship she would like to give it another chance, but don't expect too much...

[ashley89]

it has been quite awhile, you shouldn't still be thinking about her this often if you broke up over a year & a half ago. perhaps talking to a counselor or someone would help? they can give you ways to stop thinking of her and missing her and may help you get out of this slump.

[Rowen]

I agree with Ashley. I would seek a therapist out.